The second episode of "Parenthood" gave us a more in-depth look at Amber and her relationship with Ryan. In the first episode of the season, Ryan had proposed the minute he stepped onto home soil after being released from his military duties.
Ryan got down on one knee and asked Amber for her hand in marriage. While the proposal was sweet and romantic in a military sort of way, I get the feeling Amber is setting herself up for an epic fail.
Ryan hasn't overcome the PTSD he suffers from being in the military. He hasn't settled in to the civilian lifestyle as of yet either, nor have the two really gotten to know each other well. Because of this and all of the issues that have been covered on "Parenthood," it wouldn't be a complete surprise if the writing team takes on the topic of domestic violence or some emotional abuse with these two.
Before I receive a thousand e-mails or I'm hammered with comments, I will throw this out there; I do not believe that every single military man or woman comes home with PTSD and is ready to beat up on a spouse. I do believe that the show maintains a good balance of what is factual and I can believe they would have the truth about our military men and women having to suffer with PTSD as they do in life. PTSD leaves one agitated and living in a world of fear. When that fear gets up into the levels that people suffering with PTSD have to live with, it can cause an immense amount of emotional pain and a human way of dealing with it is the "fight or flight" human response. I see Ryan either running or losing it before the season is over.
With PTSD, Ryan is not ready to assume the marriage position of husband to Amber. Amber is strong-willed and although she treats him well, I get the feeling it won't take long before she upsets him enough to send him packing.
Sarah had the right idea to hold off on speaking to Amber about the wedding, mainly due to Amber's personality. Amber would have "pushed back" had her mother attempted to involve herself with Amber and Ryan breaking up rather than helping her daughter have a great wedding. Had she stepped in and told Amber it was far too soon, Amber would have revolted and moved away with Ryan.
I see the combination of strong-willed woman and military man who hasn't decompressed from all he's been through a real tragedy waiting to happen. Either the two will break up or we will see a chance for writers to bring on the topic of domestic violence. Either way, it won't be good.
I love the character Amber and I do like the Ryan character the writers have involved her with. I would hate to see either one end up hating each other. My gut tells me that they will suffer through some trauma, pain and might eventually work it out, depending on the reaction of the audience toward Ryan.
Of course, I thought Jason Ritter would have been a great companion for Sarah too and figured the writers would have left him in the show over Ray Ramano. I'm a huge Ramano fan and that's difficult to say, but I thought the character Ritter played was a better fit.
Do you think Amber and Ryan are ready? Should Sarah get involved other than to say she wants to help with the wedding?