With the use of Internet dating sites you may be exposed to a much more diverse group of potential mates than you would meet at some of the conventional venues like your church, personal introductions by family or even coworkers if you work in a less diverse setting. There are many issues that come in to play when considering interracial dating which you will find more available when Internet dating.
Most groups have taboos against dating those outside the group in order to keep the group alive. It makes sense if one values their heritage and culture and do not wish to see it diluted. While many people seem to value diversity in spirit, if everyone truly married outside of their faith/culture/race or heritage, in time there would actually be less and less of this very cherished concept of diversity. Isn't that what they did in Brazil where the government encouraged interracial marriage to produce a homogenous culture as a means to temper racial disharmony? Maybe that's the way of the future or maybe others will embrace their identity and wish to see in carried on. In either case, interracial dating requires special attention.
Just as religion has a profound effect on dating, interracial dating does too, but to a greater extent. When couples are of the same race, it is much less likely that anyone will know that they are of differing religions. As such, much of the public prejudice is avoided. With interracial dating it is not too difficult to see that the couple is interracial. While interracial may not bother the couple so engaged, they may face societal shunning, criticism and outright hostilities. Yes, there still exists those who get upset, even incensed when they see an interracial couple. The effect is more pronounced in the elderly who cling to their prejudices as well as to the young who may feel threatened that someone from another race is “taking” one of their own from the mating pool.
Besides the pressures from outside agitators, there are truly difficult challenges to make interracial dating work. Relationships in general, and marriage in particular, are hard enough when you have common values, interests, and backgrounds. As soon as you place more variables of incompatibility into the relationship equation, there is the chance of more problems developing over time.
While diversity and learning about other cultures in wonderful in academia, it doesn’t always play out that way in real life. As noted in an earlier article, the importance of compatibility in relationships cannot be stressed enough. The more the compatibility between partners the less either has to compromise. While compromise is the essence of a good relationship it is also one of the bigger factors in frustration and failure of relationships.
Why would anyone want to put their chances of a successful relationship at risk due to incompatibilities? The answer is simple – love! And this is why so many relationships fail when the love, or more likely lust leaves the equation and differences in values, principles, desires, religion and race come to the surface. After a while, some interracial couples may grow closer as they embrace their differences. Some couples will grow apart as they recognize the foreign nature of the other partner is not compatible with their history and beliefs.
While years ago interracial relationships where a societal taboo, today the acceptance has risen dramatically. There is much less chance that an interracial couple will be shunned or worse attacked, however, the personal challenges of remaining together with so many cultural differences remains a risk.
When entering into an interracial relationship, remember it is easy to fall in love with people of other cultures, but is will most likely present challenges that you have to be ready to confront. As with interfaith dating, one or the other of the coupe can study the other person's religion and even consider conversion to the religion of their partner in order to accommodate the one who is more tied to their religion. With interracial dating there is no option to change your race (not counting Michael Jackson), however you can embrace the culture of your mate.
Next time let's explore cultural differences to see what you may expect if you decide to become part of an interracial couple.