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Infertility is the death of a dream part two

The death of a dream
The death of a dream

The experience of infertility can leave one or both of the couple with depression, feeling hopeless and futile, feeling physical, emotional, and spiritual exhaustion, as well as loss and grief. Additionally, the couple or individual may feel empty and isolated with a sense of failure and despair, as well as identity confusion and dread since what they have wanted for so long is no longer possible. The couple might even have some feelings of relief since they can stop searching for a resolution and this itself can lead to feelings of guilt as explained by J.C. Daniluk.

A great strain is placed on a couple when they experience the inability to conceive a child they want so badly, effecting them emotionally, socially, and financially and requiring them to utilize coping when they may be strained beyond their abilities and putting their marriage at risk of falling apart. Once a couple recognizes that the reality of their infertility is permanent and not just temporary, it is not uncommon that one withdraws from those who have children. They may also have a sense of uncertainty and fear about the future, alone or together, due to their childlessness. While pursuing treatments for infertility, the couples often report that they find others to be insensitive to their situation.

The couple reports that they struggle to cope with a lack of support, socially and institutionally from family members, friends, colleagues, and even medical professionals as well.  It is not unusual to experience a lack of understanding from those around to the sorrow and loss felt by infertility or failure to carry a child to term (miscarriage).  Part one of the series is now available and continuing articles will be available soon.

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