Ever wondered what are the defining differences between true love and infatuation? How does one know if the love bug has bitten?
The Webster’s dictionary describes being in love as:
: A feeling of strong or constant affection for a person
: Attraction that includes sexual desire
: The strong affection felt by people who have a romantic relationship
: A person you love in a romantic way
In the context of romantic love relationships, romance usually implies an expression of one's strong romantic love, or one's deep and strong emotional desires to connect with another person intimately or romantically.
So what does infatuation look like?
Infatuation is the state of being carried away by unreasoned passion or love: 'expresses the headlong libidinal attraction of addictive love. Usually, one is inspired with an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone.
: To cause to be foolish
: deprive of sound judgment
: To inspire with a foolish or extravagant love or admiration
If you have an infatuation for a person or thing, you have strong feelings of love or passion for them which make you unable to think clearly or sensibly about them. Dictionary Reverso.
When one is truly "in love" there is a deep intimate connection. This connection/sense or feeling never dies. It's for the rest of your life. Whether the person is still alive or deceased.
Infatuation, however, is short lived. Usually seen in affairs which typically last about a year and a half. There's a rush of excitement at the beginning of the romance that eventually dies out after spending long periods of time together.
The infatuation wears off and the relationship ends. These people are able to carry on without much thought of the other person involved after the breakup.
There is an element of mental distortion happening with the infatuated person. Medical psychologist’s state there is usually a low self esteem associated with the individual who fantasizes about relationships.
Infatuation at the beginning of a romantic relationship could turn into true love if the couple have spent quality time together, and have matured enough to develop a deep inner connection of intimacy with each other.
A true test of real love is spending time apart. Infatuated feeling will die, but deep committed love grows even when couples have to be separate.
Behind every broken relationship is self absorption.