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Independent women versus dependent women in the dating world

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She is sexy, determined, and driven toward success. She worked her butt off in college with all her unpaid internships and eventually landed a job on top of the corporate latter. She tried dating while striving to reach her career goals, but realized that she did not have the time to manage both at the same time. So she made a choice to continue chasing her career instead of love like her friends. Many women like this still exist today; however, fewer and fewer are conforming to the ‘man.’ Some men like their women to be easily persuaded away from their employer, so that the traditional 50’s outlook on relationships can extend in is favor.

Here are what some women had to say about this:

Woman A: In no way, shape or form will I ever give up my career for any man! I spent countless hours working for free just so that I can get my foot through the door. I even strayed away from possible relationships in college so that I can focus more on my career. My guy friends called me stubborn, ridiculous, and lonely because unlike my close girl-friends who chose to chase love like a black Friday special, I chose the corporate ladder. I remained single for most of my twenties, unlike my girl friends who got married in their young twenties. I recently became married on the brink of my thirties, and my friends are once again single due to divorce and marrying at such a young age. Overall, I’m grateful that I stuck to attaining my goals over boys.

Woman B: I made the biggest mistake any girl can do! I dropped out of college and moved away from my parents to be with a guy whom I thought was the ‘one.’ Mind you, that the college I dropped out from was Ivy League material. Don’t get me started anymore on that subject. Anyhow, my goal was to become a doctor, and in high school I worked significantly hard to get good grades so that I could get accepted into the school of my dreams. However, the man I thought that I would be with forever turned out to be a liar, cheater, and a sexist. When we started dating in my junior year, he told me things that a girl couldn’t say no to. And so, he convinced me to drop my aspirations and goals so that we can still be together, and I did. Now that we're not together anymore, I am starting out at a community college and not the school of my dreams. I wish I had a friend to smack some sense into me; however, my girl friends in high school were like, oh yeah! Go for it! Awe, that’s so sweet! I wish my boy friend would tell me the same….

Woman C: I have been single for over 5 years. I’m not ugly whatsoever, and I know this because many guys in college always tried to get my attention and my panties off. However, I was the kind of girl who did not dishonor her body, especially if she wanted a man to respect her body. My independent mind went viral and my relationship life only continued to spiral downward. I am not going to lie, it was hard seeing some of my girl friends dating a bunch of men and being in the comfort of those muscly arms. However, not just my body but also my goals kept me going and seeing past this emotional disruption. Some of my friends dropped out of college for their guy to get married and live the life of a domesticated housewife. Nothing wrong with that, but I just see more in stored for me. As I dropped graciously into my career after college, I realized that I did not want to become thirty and flirty like my mom did; however, I soon then realized that if I was meant to be with someone, then I will be. Why should I stress? I chose my career and my independent way of thinking over unnecessary distractions in college, is that so wrong? Not at all, I am happily single and well on my way to the top of the executive ladder. Besides, I probably make more money than some men in the work force today anyhow.

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