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Improving the "marriage accounts" of Kansas City couples


How much money do you have in the bank? No, you don't have to tell me, as long as you know. And I'm sure you do, because you've probably checked your balance at some point within the last 48 hours. Most people know it's in their best interest, financially, to always be aware of the balance of their bank account.  We should take this same attitude toward our marriage accounts.

Oh, silly me. I've gotten ahead of myself. Let me back up and explain what a marriage account is. According to the Nadirah Angail Dictionary, a marriage account is "a figurative ledger that keeps track of all the positive and negative factors and contributions in a marriage. The higher the balance in your marriage account, the healthier your marriage will be."

Every time a couple does something positive together (laugh at a joke, enjoy a meal, participate in an activity, have sex, etc.) they are adding to their marriage account. Every time they do something negative (ignore each other, do mean things, fight, make disrespectful remarks, etc.) they withdraw from that account. If you aren't careful, it can be very easy to let your account balance get dangerously low.

Here are some tips to help local couples make more deposits in their accounts.

  • Go on a shopping trip- No, not the "we need groceries" kind, or the "charge up your credit card" kind, but the "let's find a creative way to show our love" kind. Head out to Oak Park Mall, Independence Center, or any other big store you like, and split up. You each have 30 minutes (or an hour) to find a heart-felt gift that is under $5. It's not about what you get. It's the though behind it.
  • Head to a B&B- Local bed & breakfast inns have more of a personal, romantic feel that you can't always get at a chain hotels. Ditch the children for a night or two and get in some quality time.
  • Workout together- I already addressed the importance of working out together in my last post. It causes a natural adrenaline rush and can really help improve your self image.
  • Go out. NOT to the movies- A lot of couples go to the movies when they go out. That can get boring and predictable. Try something new, like rock climbing.
  • Travel together- This one obviously will take some planning and money, but travel is a wonderful way to get closer to your partner. It is nice to experience each other in a completely different environment.

Sending beautiful energy your way,

~Nadirah Angail

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  • Sakina- Islamic Issues Examiner 5 years ago

    Very nice.
    Thanks for the tips. I've heard of the bank account analogy before and loved it. :-)

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