…because men are hungry for something more, and trust me, it goes way beyond sex.
Look at it this way: “movement” for a man it vital; almost as important as breathing. By movement we are talking about an action that leads to the direct result of those actions. Case and point: Most men don’t mind walking to the park with their spouse, and most women find this an attractive trait. However, most women forget that there are swings, monkey bars, and other things to do while at the park.
To make it even plainer: replace walking with the word cuddling, and playing with the word sex. While walking through the park the excitement is not necessarily the walk, but it’s the destination. A man will always have the boyish attitude and should never be extinguished. If ever it is, the relationship will become dull and boring. And one more key point: a woman can never make a man; she can only give birth to a boy and aid in the development of a young boy. Remember that as much as a woman likes to "walk" a man likes to "play."
So what makes a man?
Not a woman! A woman gives birth to a boy, not a man. She knows what it feels like to be a strong woman but never what it feels like to be a man. A woman will never feel what it is like to be a man, just as much as a man will never feel what it is like being a woman. Women can help a man become a stronger man but she can never make him into one.
A man finds himself through the responsibilities he accepts and/ or rejects. Most men (and rightfully called so) will take on any responsibilites that will elevate the pressures off the woman (wife). In a marital relationship this means taking the responsibility of providing: 1st ) Safety 2nd) Support and 3rd ) Passion.
Why did he choose you?
The main reason, for most men, for the reasons that he choose the woman he is with is because of the thrill of the chase. Men like games.
We like playing videoe games because it presents a challenge that is conquerable with time, skill, and patience. Each stage, every touchdown, or goal that is made draws us closer to the ultimate prize; winning!
When men chase after a woman, that same thrill and adventure is presented. The ultimate prize this time is the woman’s heart, and then her body (after marriage). For most relationships the game is over for both parties after the honeymoon.
The end-user
If you look at the video game industry, they understand that in order to keep their players playing, the need to continue to come out with different versions of the same game. Unfortunately, multiple games creates a different type of player (to those with ears hear).
As the gaming industry determines the likes and dislikes of previous games, they can develop a new game to keep the gamer, or player in the game, i.e., the multiple versions of Halo, Mario Brothers, Mortal Kombat, and even Parappa the rapper.
The gaming industry knows that to keep the interest of the player, a new a better game that compliments and engages their end users must be created.
And so we turn to the end user-“the cheating man”
If he has done it once, chances are he will do it again. To him a new game must be played and if his wife doesn’t want to play then he will find someone who will. It’s just another adventure- a continuation of what was experienced before all of the restrictions after marriage.
Understand that this type of ‘playing’ is not necessarily sexual. It’s simply taking risk together, challenging each other in thought and emotions, building a future together that is not just his vision or hers but theirs.
The ‘play’ woven throughout the relationship says that life is simply life, don’t take it so seriously and enjoy each moment we have together. It’s not a problem walking through the park but don’t forget that it is a park; a place where playing is tolerated, welcomed, and accepted.
Following are the 3 core reasons why most men cheat
1) No excitement
Excitement is created on both parties, not just the man. The man shouldn’t always bear the responsibility of stimulating an environment of excitement. Sometimes men would like to be wowed or shocked by their wife. When this happens a man’s creativity is stimulated to return a ‘favor.’
2) Lack of attention
As there is a growing increase of self-centered men, women are increasingly becoming more self-conscious. A man wants to be noticed for small things like facial hairs trimmed, or how coordinated they are when they put their clothes together. Small things like this affirm the man that you still ‘digg’ him. If ever the husband finds that his wife doesn’t notice him, his innate response is to subconsciously start being aware of someone who does.
3) Stupidity
Stupidity personified! He is selfish and doesn’t care about life or the feelings of his wife or the other women he is hurting. This suggests that he has some deep seated problems with himself, not necessarily with his wife, that he needs deliverance and healing from. Let’s not forget drugs and alcohol both alter the perspective of a man also which add to the stupidity list of cheating men.
Last and in addition to what is already listed in the stupidity category is lack of commitment. That is because if a man can be committed to his work that pays him, or a game that challenges him, he can be committed to a woman who loves him. No excuses!
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