The New Year is almost here! Can you believe it? A part of me believes this has been my toughest year ever and then the other part of me believes this has been the most rewarding year ever.
I think both parts are right.
It’s usually through adversity that one either rises to the occasion or falls by the wayside. I’m a pretty tough cookie, so falling by the wayside is just not my style. Plus, pushing through the ugly has always brought me greater rewards than sitting on the sidelines. Sure, it’s hard work, but the hard work always pays off. Speaking of hard work…
Did I mention that the New Year is upon us?
It’s usually around this time that people start thinking of how to begin the incoming year on the right foot. Most of the time there’s weight loss goals, career goals, money goals, love goals, and quit smoking goals. No matter how many times we set our goals for a bigger, brighter, and better future, we end up citing the same goals from the previous year(s).
Why is that?
As I’ve been busy helping clients find love or resolve their current dating dilemmas, I’ve noticed that the common thread we all have is not that we don’t know what to do. We have all the information we need to make our lives better.
The problem lies in our habitual patterns. We want these new goals that promise a bigger, brighter, and better future, but we fail to realize that in order to have something new, we have to drop something old.
That’s the scary part.
Our habits, no matter how unhealthy they are, are kept around because their comfortable. They’re reliable. They give us the same result and that helps us keep our story about how life/love/work/church/God/etc is. It’s our proof that we’re right. Our habitual patterns are our friends and our enemies all in one. They’re our haters and our cheerleaders.
However, they are the barb wired fence that’s keeping us from the other side of a mediocre life.
To get to the other side, we must confront our habits. We must confront our ugliness. We must confront the reasons why we haven’t changed. We must get uncomfortable.
If you are willing to do only what’s easy, life will be hard. But if you are willing to what’s hard, life will be easy. ~T. Harv Eker
What’s the solution? Stick with me, kiddo, we’re going places.
List one thing that you really want right now or in the next 6 months. You want this so bad you can TASTE it. (or touch it)
List all the many ways you could attain this one thing within the next 6 months.
Ask yourself “Am I willing to do ONE of the items I listed in order to get this goal in 6 months?” (If no, then you must not really want this goal, therefore you need to get thine self back to Step 1)
Here’s the tricky part…making the one item you listed stick in your DNA so that you do it without thinking. How could you trick yourself into doing this one action every day without thinking?
Here’s how it’s worked for me.
I want to coach 5 clients per month.
I could use Twitter as a way to get prospects, I could create a Facebook Fan page, I could conduct a survey of singles in my area, I could reach out to other dating and relationship coaches and build a relationship, I could host workshops, seminars, and teleseminars, I could make my website customer friendly, etc.
Have all of my Twitter updates sent directly to my cell phone as a text message. That way, I can interact with potential leads without having to be at a computer.
See how easy that was? The thing is, once I discovered the ease of using Twitter from my phone, I began going back to Step 2 and adding something else I could do. You see, I got rid of a bad habit (being lazy about finding prospects for my business) by replacing it with something new that is easy and requires NO brain power complete.
Do I have 5 clients per month? Nope, I have 3. Let me tell ya, 3 is way better than 0.
Think about this as you move into 2011. Whatever it is you want, how can you trick yourself into working for it?
Have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! More goodness coming from me in January!