Hi Ladies! I know it has been a while since I’ve written anything. But, I’m discovering a lot of new things about relationships. I have been doing a lot of experiencing these past few months and it is very eye opening. Today I want to talk about our habit of throwing things away.
I saw a picture on Facebook recently that asked a couple that had been together for 65 years, I think, how have they managed to stay together so long? The answer was something to the effect of “we grew up in a time where when something was broken, you fixed it.” That got me thinking. If you really think about it, we don’t fix anything anymore. Your phone broke, go down to the Cricket store downtown and get a new one. Your car not acting right, get over to Cherry Creek Dodge and get a new one. At least one that is new to you. Everything is replaceable and we treat people the same way.
Think about the phone scenario for example. Sometimes, there isn’t anything wrong with our phone. We just want a newer model. Sure, the one you have makes calls, you get all your texts and your music plays just fine, but it doesn’t have all the new features of the iPhone 5. So, we get rid of it. It seems that’s how we treat our relationships.
We are no longer willing to roll up our sleeves and figure out what is wrong with the thing. We just want the headache to go away. It takes less thought to replace something or someone, than it is to mend what is broken. It takes less work and less effort. But that’s short-sighted. Honestly, that iPhone 5 will get old to you. It’ll become predictable and some of your texts may never come through and it won’t do half the things the iPhone 6 will and we’ll end up tossing that in the trash too.
I’m not advocating for phones, just think of this in the perspective of your partner, your lover, your girlfriend, your boo thang. She’s not a phone or a car or a blender. She’s someone you fell in love with. If she was worth it then, she should be worth it now. Forget your insecurities and allow yourself to be open and vulnerable. Be willing to communicate. Be willing to compromise. Be willing to make her happy just because it makes her happy. Everything we do for someone else does not always have to benefit us as well.
However, there are some things that need to be thrown away. For example, if you have a pair of underwear and only the elastic remains, it does not serve its purpose. It does nothing for you and you don’t even know what it is anymore. If you are in a relationship that resembles a pair of draws that don’t even give you coverage, you need to throw that away…immediately.
I hope this makes you think and you appreciate my making an appearance on the scene. I look forward to comments and discussions. Check in, ladies!!