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I.Q. and your tween

Do you wonder whether your tween’s I.Q. will determine his or her success?

Average I.Q. is around 100, and genius I.Q. is 140 or over. This, however, does not not predict success. Coach Jess informs us that Angela Duckworth, a recipient of the MacArthur Genius Grant, says that “grit,” or passion combined with perseverance for long-term goals, is the key to success (www.mycoachjess.com). In her research, Duckworth found that grit, not intelligence, determined success. Follow-through, or commitment to certain activities, will accomplish goals. Coach Jess suggests the following:

Model perseverance, even when it is frustrating or disappointing.

Provide a challenge, encouraging activities that require discipline.

Retract the safety net and share you own failures.

www.psychology.about.com has an article that mentions “Terman’s Study of Gifted Children,”where gifted children were followed into adulthood. The individuals that did best had “goal-orientation, self-confidence, and perseverance,” showing that personality traits are also important. Modern I.Q. research has shown that “the best thing IQ measures is the ability to do well in school.” According to Alan Kazdin of Yale University.

www.forbes.com , Beyond I.Q.: What Makes The Difference Between Success And Failure in Life. Robert Steinberg, author of How Practical and Creative Intelligence Determine Success in Life, writes that “IQ is a pretty miserable predictor of life achievement.” He sates the most important traits are curiosity, passion, relationship building, and moderation.

Curiosity or a burning desire to explore new things, is essential. Passion, or love of what we pursue, is equally as important. Moral and psychological support from relationships is also essential, and avoiding excess or greed is a key factor.

www.npr.org reports that Children Succeed With Character, Not Test Scores. Author Paul Tough says that success can’t be measured by tests, and that without character-building experiences as adolescents, it is difficult to succeed. He suggests mentoring that focuses on goals.

www.articles.latimes.com, in an article entitled American education and the IQ trap, they address the fact that testing is very limiting, since we all have different cognitive strengths and weaknesses. I.Q. varies and changes, and does not determine life outcomes.

In sum, encourage your tween to be a well-balanced person, pursuing individual interests, face challenges, and keep up their positive relationships. Don’t worry about I.Q.; be more concerned about your child’s character development and following his or her passions.

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