Believe it or not, the position you sleep with your partner at night says a lot about the state of your relationship. No, we’re not talking about the way you sleep during the first flushes of love when you simply can’t keep your hands off each other, but how you snooze when things have settled down a bit and you’re in a long term, comfortable relationship.
Given that an adult sleeps for approximately eight hours a day, the average person will be asleep for around a third of their lifetime. As the experts at Divan Beds Centre are only too aware, the importance of getting a good night’s shut-eye should not be underestimated. Some surprising benefits of achieving a quality sleep include maintaining a healthy weight, looking better and improved relationships. Therefore, it goes without saying that a poor or limited amount of sleep could have some seriously unwanted consequences for your partnership and the way you achieve this sleep says a great deal about you as a couple.
When it comes to quality snoozing research has shown that women are without a doubt the sleepless sex. They have a much harder time dropping off initially and find themselves easily startled and woken when they are asleep. It should come as no surprise to learn that one in four couples argues in bed because they are kept awake by their partner’s sleeping habits - snoring being a major culprit.
Men seem to be able to fall asleep in the same time it takes a woman to put her book down and turn off the light, and when they are asleep they enjoy a much better quality rest than a woman. Recent studies have indicated this may be to do with women’s sex hormones, which not only affect their overall sleep, but their sleep cycles too. Pregnancy and menstruation mean that women’s levels of estrogen and progesterone regularly fluctuate and cause this disturbance.
To snuggle or not to snuggle?
Cuddling together at night is an extremely important aspect of a couple’s physical relationship, but trying to combine this with good quality sleep could spell disaster.
A recent survey revealed that more than half of people felt their sex life was improved if they ‘cuddled up’ more often, with 34% of men claiming to be annoyed if their partner did not cuddle them before going to sleep.
However, sleep is not a shared activity and a staggering one in ten couples admit to sleeping separately in the quest for a quality snooze. Most surprising is that a quarter of young couples aged 35 and upwards are now considering separate beds.
It’s all in the position
When we’re in a deep sleep our innermost thoughts, feelings and fantasies surface, contributing to dreams, sleep talking and bedtime body language. None of these things can be faked and it is thought that your sleeping position can say a great deal about your relationship.
Over time a couple’s sleeping position will become habit, and suit their individual personalities and preferences; a change in position could indicate a problem. For example, a couple who usually sleep within close proximity and facing each other could find themselves back to back and wide apart after an argument or during times of stress when touching is not welcomed.