When you finally find "The One" and feel that you are ready to "settle down" it then becomes a waiting game for most women. Unless you're one of those truly independent women who decides to propose to your man, you are obligated to wait on that ring and proposal and that wait can be daunting.
What NOT to do:
- Avoid too much pre-planning - Pinning your ideas on Pinterest is one thing, but don't go out booking venues and buying dresses if he has not gotten down on bended knee!
- No ultimatums! - It's understandable that you get to a point where you feel like you can't take it anymore, but at this point you really only have two options - stay or leave. And make that decision on your own, not with him. You can't force someone into marriage. Giving someone an ultimatum is pressuring them and backing them into a corner and that is not a good way to begin a marriage.
- Try not to consult with his friends/family - Asking them why he hasn't popped the question is a very bad idea. For one, it's just bad form. It's rude. Your relationship should be your business and yours alone. If you are having issues in your relationship, snooping for insight with those closest to him is not the way to go about it. Plus, they will probably tell him whatever you said. Remember, their loyalties lie with him.
What to do:
- Work on yourself - Women wait on the ring and just sit around pouting and being impatient. What they really should be doing is working and growing as a individual. Work on becoming a wife. Prepare yourself for the responsibility that comes with marriage instead of complaining about how long it's taking to take that walk down the aisle. When you become the person that you want to be with, you become the person that your God-given mate will want to be with.
- Work on your finances - When two become one, two finances become one too! You need to make sure your finances are in order before you think about legally joining with someone else.
- Work on your relationship with God - If you are not actively working on your relationship with God, you will not be prepared for a marriage relationship. Your relationship with God is the most important relationship you will ever have in your life. And that relationship will be an excellent blue print for your relationship with your spouse. And your spiritual walk with God will teach you how to respond to challenging times in your marriage.
- Date yourself - Enjoy your time as a non-married woman. Go out to the movies with yourself. Have a glass of wine by yourself.
If you are with someone who has explicitly expressed that he wants to marry you, then you don't have anything to worry about. Chances are, he's actually doing what you should be doing - preparing himself! He's probably saving money, shopping for a ring, saving for a house, etc. If he has not mentioned wanting to marry you (seriously), then you do have something to worry about. But at that point, you just need to explore the relationship and where it's going and honestly ask yourself how long you're willing to wait! But whatever you do, do not, I repeat, do not pressure a man into marriage.
What do you think? What's the best way to go about waiting on the ring?
Also read: The pros and cons of wedding pinning.
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