So, your husband still wants to go out 3 or 4 nights a week and party and have drinks with the guys, huh? And I’m guessing you want to change all of that and show him that he has a family that he needs to be with. If it is to the point where you are starting to regret marrying your husband and you want to do something to repair your marriage, then there are a few ways you can go about it.
One thing you can try is sitting down with your husband to explain to him how his partying and drinking is having an adverse affect on your marriage. Try to make him understand that you love him but you need him to be at home with you and your children more instead of out drinking and partying 3 or 4 nights per week.
If that approach does not work, then you might try to convince him to go to marriage counseling with you. The two of you will be able to sit down with a professional counselor and try to work through your issues. The thing you have to make sure of with a marriage counselor though is, you have to find one that is going to show your husband why what he is doing is wrong and push him to want to change it. You should also be aware that marriage counseling only works for some people with some issues and does not work for everyone in all circumstances.
Another approach is to show him why he should stay home with his family instead of going out to bars with his friends. In a lot of situations like the one you are going through, you can simply put the romance back in your marriage. You see, after being married for longer than a year, the romance starts to fade away and couples forget what it was like to be dating one another. They forget about all of those long talks, those wild nights in the bedroom, and romantic dinner dates they used to have. Relationship expert Michael Fiore explains in a video on his website how you can turn your husband into a hopeless romantic and have him head over heels in love with you just like he was in the beginning. You should watch that video and learn how to put the spark back into your marriage.
If your marriage has reached the point where you are fighting all the time and things are starting to get out of control, then there is another relationship expert who is able to help. T.W. Jackson created a program called the Magic of Making Up that helps couples repair and save their marriages no matter how hopeless the situation may seem. Take a look at his website and get some tips that will help you turn your marriage around.
In the end, if nothing seems to work, you might have to cut ties with your husband and get a divorce. Getting a divorce is something that nobody plans to do, but sometimes it is necessary when a couple is unable to see eye to eye on major issues such as this one. If your husband simply will not stop going out drinking with his buddies, then it is clear that he has chosen drinking and spending time with friends over having a successful marriage.
Before making any decisions on what you are going to do, make sure to take a look at the two relationship experts' websites and let them help you with the situation you are going through. You will be able to transform your husband into a hopeless romantic with the tactics Michael Fiore can teach you and you will be able to save your marriage with the information that T.W. Jackson can teach you, but keep in mind, if those things do not work, you cannot be the only one trying to make the marriage work. You deserve someone who wants to be with you and who wants to spend time with you instead of drinking with his friends.