How to tell if your partner is already married

In such technological times, it is easy for married men and women to meet the opposite sex online and inadvertently start a long distance relationship before they realize how deep they have gotten involved. Many married people do not realize that they are involved in a long distance relationship with someone other than their spouse until it is too late. If you are worried that your partner may already be married, use the following tips to make sure.

1. If your partner refuses to travel to your location to see you, claiming that he does not have a car or any other mode of transportation, he may be married. A committed partner will figure out any way to see you such as flying, taking the bus, or hopping on a train to the San Jose Diridon Station. Nothing can get in the way of a person who is truly committed. The reason why a married person would not travel to see you is obvious. They do not want the mileage showing up on the car, they would have to come up with an excuse to leave for many hours or overnight, and they would have to pay for gas, hotel or food. All of these things would reveal to their spouse that they are seeing someone else, i.e. you, and that is what they are trying to prevent.
2. If your partner refuses to pay for anything such as food, a hotel room at the Hotel de Anza, or a night out, they may be married. Charges on credit cards are visible to spouses, especially if they share the same bank account. A simple way to figure out if your partner is already married is to stop paying for anything and see if they step up. If they stop calling, then they are married. If they come up with original, creative and fun ways to spend your time without spending much money, they may not be married and just be in a financial crisis.
3. The issue of spending money leads to the next issue. Does your partner refuse to invite you to their house? Does she want to stay in a hotel room the entire time you are together? If you answered yes to both of those questions, your partner may be married. You are not allowed in their house because their spouse and kids live there. You are also not allowed to be seen in public in case someone sees the two of you together and the sighting reaches the ears of your partner's spouse. If you refuse to pay for a hotel room and your partner comes up with inexpensive date ideas outside in a public place such as a stroll through Kaleid Gallery, they are probably not married and just do not have very much money.
4. When you try to talk about the topics above, does your honey get defensive rather than have an honest and straight-forward conversation? Does he make it seem like there is something wrong with you for wanting to talk about why he does not want to spend any money or travel to see you? If your partner gets defensive when you try to have a meaningful conversation and improve the relationship, they are hiding something (most probably a marriage). Individuals in committed relationships have conversations about what is bothering them and the fact that your partner does not want to address your concerns should raise a red flag.
5. The most major issue that reveals whether or not your partner may be married is how they handle phone calls. If your partner is okay with you calling them during the day or night, they are not married. If he or she does not allow you to call them, but they call you, then they are most probably married. The way people handle phone calls reveals everything about the relationship because it shows whether or not they are comfortable with receiving unexpected calls throughout the day and have no reason to disallow you from contacting them. For those individuals who do not allow phone calls, they want to wait until the time is convenient for them, such as a time when they can get away from their spouse or when they are home alone. Unexpected phone calls are not okay with these people because their spouse may be in the room and will discover that your partner is in a relationship with you.

The important thing to remember when dealing with these issues is that a committed person will try to compromise and will have open conversations. A person in love will try to make the effort to make you happy in any way they can. If you feel like your partner is hiding something or that they may be married, try to talk to them about it. If they get defensive and refuse to answer, you know the truth. Do not get disheartened by your long distance relationship because long distance relationships can work, but only between two committed, loving, and exclusive individuals.