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How to spark a romance like in the movies

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“You should be kissed and often—and by someone who knows how,” Rhett Butler insists to his torturous love, Scarlett O’Hara, in Gone with the Wind. A girl can’t help but melt when someone tells her what an impression she has made on that person—especially with a delivery like that. How can you match wits with some of the smoothest lines delivered on the silver screen? Moments a la The Notebook may seem ridiculous to compete with but take a hint from the masters of romance. While it takes more than just a perfect delivery to truly have a great romance, learn what you can do to start off on the right path. These tips will take you from tongue-tied to silver-tongued in just three steps:

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Get close. A moment of confession is best shared up close. Find an opportunity to get your crush alone such as suggesting you both step outside for a breath of fresh air at a social gathering. Offer to buy the next round as long as he or she comes up to the bar with you to pick their poison. Use Mark (Andrew Lincoln) as inspiration when he cornered Juliet (Keira Knightley) in Love Actually by popping over to deliver a special message while posing as carolers. You can’t always wait for the opportune moment to reveal your interest, so figure out a way to make one happen.

Be honest. The key to inspiring a great romance is authenticity. You must get real with someone to inspire true feelings. Harry played by Billy Crystal goes on a monologue of all the small things that add up to that one big overwhelming emotion known as love when he confronts Sally (Meg Ryan). You have to tell that one person exactly what you adore about them. Isn’t it true that when you come to care for someone, everything about them pervades your senses? From that bright smile to that endearing personality, pinpoint your favorite part and bring it to his or her attention. And if you can’t narrow it down, keep it simple and be genuine when you tell them they’ve got the whole package.

Get personal. These great romances all have something in common: passion. If you don’t speak your mind when you finally have the chance, you aren’t fanning the flames properly. You’ve made up your mind to make your feelings known, haven’t you? Have courage and tell your crush exactly what she does that keeps her on your mind all the time. Speak about the connection you two have and how much you value that. In Dirty Dancing, it’s Baby (Jennifer Grey) who ends up delivering that perfect truth. “I’m scared of walking out of this room and never feeling the rest of my whole life the way I feel when I’m with you,” she confesses to Johnny played by Patrick Swayze. Explain what kind of affect this person has on you. “I watch them, wondering how they can watch you bring their food and clear their tables, and never get that they just met the greatest woman alive,” Melvin (Jack Nicholson) reveals to Carol (Helen Hunt) in As Good As It Gets. Being upfront about how truly this person has affected you will make your message crystal-clear to them. Soon enough, you’ll have swept them up in the romance of it all.