So, you and your boyfriend just got in a big fight and you now find yourself trying to figure out how to say sorry to him and get him to forgive you, right? Women get in fights with their boyfriends all the time, but not all of them are able to make up and save the relationship. Whether it was flirting with another guy, being too clingy, or something worse that started the fight, there are ways to tell your boyfriend sorry that will make him forgive you.
The first step to getting your boyfriend to accept your apology is to fully understand the reason he is mad to begin with. If the argument started because you were flirting with another guy, then maybe he has trust issues because one of his past girlfriends cheated on him with a guy she was flirting with. If it started because you called him too many times or took up too much of his personal time, then maybe he is not the type of guy who needs all of the attention you are giving him. Whatever the reason for the fight, it is best to have a full understanding of why he is mad at you.
Once the reason for the fight is clear, the next thing you need to do is schedule a time to sit down and talk with your boyfriend about what took place. If the two of you live separate, then it is best to meet at a neutral location such as a coffee shop to sit down and talk. If the two of you live together, then simply sitting down at the dining room table to discuss matters will work just fine. It is important to schedule the time to talk so that you do not run the risk of interrupting him while he is busy. Interrupting him will only ensure that he is half listening if he is listening at all. By meeting at a neutral location or sitting down at the dining room table, the main focus will be on the discussion and neither person’s attention will drift off to something else.
In the event that the fight was caused by something that your boyfriend does not feel like talking about or is too mad to talk about, it might be best to write a letter. Travis “T Dub” Jackson explains in his Magic of Making Up course how to write a letter that will not only make your boyfriend forgive you but will make the relationship stronger than it was before. There is something very powerful about hand written letters that makes people think differently than any other type of messages that are sent and received.
When it comes time for what to say in your apology, keep one thing in mind. Guys do not like to hear a lot of fluff and sugar coated statements no matter who they are coming from. It is also best to not beat around the bush. The best approach is to come right out and get straight to the point by being as direct as you possibly can be. Try not to get too emotional when you are discussing the issue at hand. Men are more logical when it comes to settling disputes than women. Plus, stirring up emotions is never a good idea when trying to make up after a big fight.
The final key to saying sorry to your boyfriend after a big fight is listening. It is crucial that after you have said all you need to say about the events that led to the argument, you take the time to listen to his side of the story. Find out if his reason for getting mad at you matched with your reasoning when you were in the “understanding” phase. Also, determine whether you agree with his reasoning. If you find that you are in disagreement with the reason he got so angry with you, then you might want to reconsider the relationship.
This strategy to say sorry to your boyfriend is not a foolproof plan. It is not guaranteed that he is going to act accordingly with the steps that are laid out here. If it seems like you are having more trouble than you originally thought trying to understand why he got mad at you, getting him to meet with you, or getting him to discuss the issue(s) with you, then it might be time to seek help. The relationship expert mentioned previously, Travis “T Dub” Jackson, has an excellent course called Magic of Making Up that outlines every step women need to take to make up with their boyfriends and husbands. The course is something to seriously consider because he has helped more than 50,000 couples in 77 different countries, and he can help you too.
If texting is more your speed then another relationship expert named Michael Fiore has a course called Text Your Ex Back that will be better for you to check out. Take a look at the short video on his website by visiting www.textexbf.com/
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