Perhaps you met him on an extended vacation or spent the summer at your family’s vacation house and he was the new guy in town, either way, you’re still pining for him long after you’ve said your goodbyes. Of course you exchanged phone numbers, email addys and you’ve connected on Facebook. You’ve even talked a few times since you parted ways at that secret, romantic spot on the beach that was just “yours”. But, how do you know if the two of you can turn your fling into a thing?
Let’s start with a clear head. Summertime sets the stage for romance. No one can deny that summer turns up the heat a notch, or two, in every way. Combine the sexy atmosphere of summer with being away from your everyday life and there is the making for an intoxicating situation. Yes this setting can be incredibly exciting and fun, but can that situation translate into your “real” life?
A rather confusing factor of a summer romance is that the relationship is essentially a relationship on super-petrol. Three months at the beach or even ten intense days at a romantic resort, well … you can jam a lot into that time. These specific situations give way to carefree days and nights. The romantic fantasy sets the tone and the sex is so amazing, but the fact is that most of that has less to do with love and far more do with being out of your everyday environment.
After you’ve cleared the summer mist from your brain, can you still say that he’s a priority? “Yes,” you say. Really? He lives several hours away. Have you made any plans to see one another? Not the “we’ll figure it out” deal with empty promises, but an actual plan for how the two of you will continue what began on vacation?
Ask yourself a few very basic questions:
- Are you really willing to commit to a long-distance relationship?
- How much time will you be able to spend together? One weekend a month or holiday break … maybe?
- Outside of that amazing summer setting, how much do you really have in common?
After all is said and done, accept your summer romance for the brief and beautiful thing that it was … a summer fling.
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