What if you had a crystal ball and could actually predict your next relationship? The truth is it is easier to predict then one might realize. In Stuart Wilde’s book, “The Three Keys to Self-Empowerment,” he states, “If you want to be accepted, accept yourself and if you want to be acknowledged, acknowledge yourself.
The problem is most people do not take the time to reflect and heal before jumping into their next relationship. They seek instant gratification which comes at a steep price. Their egos are picking their next relationship which lacks conscious awareness. It is like a moth jumping right back into the flame without learning its lesson.
Julie was married to a man who felt superior in every way. He came from a wealthy background, had great looks and was highly educated. He constantly let her know how fortunate she was to have a man of his caliber. He let her know how inferior she was in every way.
Julie had a father who rejected her growing up. She never had connected the dots on how this father daughter relationship had impacted her intimate relationships. Julie was rejected by her own father so her subconscious mind was used to not feeling accepted and worthy by the opposite sex. She had never learned to accept herself just the way she was on a subconscious level.
It was no surprise that she attracted a mate who would also not accept her as well. Our subconscious mind runs 95% of all of our behavior yet Julie never reflected on her relationship problems. She instead remained in denial blaming old flames for abusive relationships.
Wilde’s comments on, “If you want to be accepted, accept yourself,” help to explain why so many people attract abusive relationships. Many with challenging childhoods are at a great disadvantage when it comes to love. Our childhood patterns continue to repeat in our adult lives until we become conscious of the life lesson.
Consciously she can be aware of a critical mate but remain unaware of how her subconscious mind continues to select out such mates. Julie can learn to reprogram her subconscious mind with affirmations such as, “I love and accept myself just the way I am” or “I have extreme value”. Next, “I am whole, complete and lacking in nothing.”
The more she can repeat these affirmations out loud, (15 minutes a day 3 x a day) the healthier her relationships will become. Julie will have profound changes in the quality of the men she attracts once the subconscious mind has been reprogrammed. Julie's level of self-esteem and worthiness on a subconscious level can be greatly increased with these affirmations.
Love requires self-esteem!