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How to learn to have a healthy relationship after having a horrible relationship

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After going through abusive and down right horrible dating relationships, I can tell you there's light at the end of the tunnel. From dating bums, you learn a great deal about what you shouldn't put up with ever again.

Being true to yourself is the best thing you can do in dating to make sure you end up with the right person. Ending up with the right person doesn't necessarily mean marriage. Plenty of people are in miserable marriages.

Ending up with the right person means finding the best teammate for you. Happy couples are great teammates. When the world turns against happy couples, happy couples always have each other.

You can start dating with the most rotten type of women or men, but that doesn't have to make up your life. You can find someone good for you and you are good for he/she if you just love yourself.

If you think you already love yourself, think again. When you truly love yourself, you learn not to settle for crumbs.

You learn to respect yourself to the point your partner has to step up or lose you for good. Don't be scared that you'll lose out on something great. If the person is giving you crumbs now, he/she will keep serving you crumbs.

A loving partner will not put you down or play mind games to keep you in the relationship. People that do that are abusers. There are physical abusers. There are verbal abusers. There are emotional abusers.

And no, you don’t have to be dumb to fall into a bad relationship. Abusers are clever and can be very charming at times. Abusers can also put a good front up for the public just to make you feel like you have something great that you would be a fool to let go.

Take a breath. You can let go and still be happier than you’ve ever been. But you have to heal from an abusive relationship first so you won’t find yourself abusing an otherwise loving companion.

Here are some signs you may be in an abusive relationship:

1. Your relationship partner belittles you every chance that he or she gets to pet his/her ego. Real love is caring. Real love is supportive.

2.The person plays mind games. You never feel safe or comforted in your relationship. You always feel like you’re walking on glass if you ask too many questions. Real love doesn’t play abusive games. Real love picks up the phone. Real love is okay sending texts. Real love is happy to spend time with you and make time to maintain a healthy and loving relationship. There is no doubt whether love lives here.

You deserve someone that adores you long after you’re together. Real love doesn’t get bored and cheat. Real love doesn’t mistreat you after you’ve been got. Real love gets better over time ( but trying days come as well, don’t expect every day to be perfect. There is no such thing as perfect in life).

When you need to bond or resolve issues with your relationship partner, always talk it out. No relationship is picture perfect. You have to work for it. You have to earn it. You can overcome any problem you have in a relationship if you face it together.

Hope this helps.

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