The easiest way to meet someone to date is, of course, to already know them! It’s definitely not easy working up the nerve to hit on someone you know, but it’s certainly easier than hitting on a stranger. Flirting with a co-worker, a friend from church, or someone in your class is easy and natural. You already have something in common, you already have an excuse for talking to them, and you already know something (maybe even a lot) about them. But a stranger? Now that’s crazy. Or is it? That’s how a lot of people meet isn’t it? Your only options for starting a relationship are: A) knowing them already, B) meeting them online, or C) talking to a stranger.
So how do you start a relationship with a stranger?
- Be a nice person – Just being genuine and nice opens you up to the possibility of a relationship with a stranger you randomly meet. If you approach every interaction with an open heart and mind you are more likely to seem approachable and attractive to other people.
- Be intriguing, interesting, mysterious even – Don’t put it all out there at once. Don’t tell them your whole life story. Honestly, they don’t care about your whole life story (yet). Just put forth your personality and make general conversation. You are more likely to click with someone over a whole lot of nothings than you are about something deep. It takes time to get “real” and “deep”. But if they think you’re an interesting person, they’ll want to get to know more.
- Be just slightly flirtacious – Once again, don’t put it all out there at once. You do want to be flirtacious, but don’t overdo it. Flirting is a very delicate thing. Some people are really good at it and some people are really bad at it! But the key is to walk the line like a tightrope.
- Give them your number – After a very good back-and-forth conversation where you both seem to be connecting, you can’t let them get away without getting their number or giving them yours. The worst feeling is when you meet someone, have a great connection, and then get home and realize you have no way to contact them. Just try to be discrete about it if you can. But definitely take that step and be bold.
Whatever you do, try to make sure the feeling is mutual. Don’t just go around flirting with and hitting on strangers!
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