Sex seems to be a popular topic these days, so I thought I would pause for a moment and write an article about it. I remember talking to one timid young man a couple of years back who sweating, shaking and terrified pulled me aside to ask, "Is sex o.k., I mean... does God like it?"
So, while many of you reading are not affiliated Christianity, and others are, I trust you will find this article fruitful and interesting. Because believe it or not God loves sex. And since this topic came up recently while in a spiritual gathering I thought what better time than now to write about it?
We've all heard the saying, "Be fruitful and multiply."
Many people see this and apply this saying liberally, bonking anything and everything that lives and breathes. Unfortunately this kind of thinking will not help you create healthy and liberating relationships. What does it really mean to have healthy, liberating and glorifying sex the biblical way, and how can you truly enjoy the benefits of a biblical relationship with your partner?
For the most part sex in our culture is largely an industry and commodity rather than something held as sacred. People view pornography as often as they click on television to watch their favorite football game or sitcom. Sex trafficking has become a huge global industry, something that has destroyed the lives of thousands of young girls and hundreds of families.
Sexual assault and rape is a worldwide problem. Millions of couples suffer from divorce, resulting from a lack of intimacy in relationships rather than intimacy, which is the foundation for true love and complete ecstasy. Does any of this really have to do with sex? Or is it really a matter of the human condition and a lack of intimacy?
Intimacy and Relationship
A lack of intimacy and love in your heart will cause you to act in many ridiculous ways, including having sex to numb out the world and to feel pleasure rather than to simply “feel” and to interact with your life partner. It is often said that foolish human beings worship idols and the lusts of their heart rather than the great Creator, who has the ability to create loving and love bonds between human beings.
If you read the bible, and I mean actually read it (it is a very interesting book, you should try it sometime) you may find the following passage:
“Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever!” (Romans 1:21-25).
Well jeez. That is telling. If you find yourself falling into a pattern of having sex, rather than entering into a loving relationship, perhaps it is time to ask yourself whether you are worshipping the act of sex rather than searching for true intimacy, and whether that is good enough. You may be missing out on humanity, and an opportunity to fill an ever-growing void in your heart.
What else does the bible say?
It says that a lot of great things about love. Have you ever read the Song of Solomon? Read it. For as much passion and other interesting things that seem to be contained within in, it is truly a love story between God and His creation.
God on Sex
With regard to how God feels about sex, let’s start with God created sex, and that our bodies are made good. After all, man leaves his family and is united to his wife, and the two “shall be one flesh.” After all, Adam and Eve started out lying naked together and feeling no shame.
But how much of modern sexuality and sex is filled with shame? And guilt? And fear? Well that isn’t the way it is supposed to be. It is supposed to be a good, wonderful and awesome reflection of the love, beauty and goodness that was created intentionally for man and woman to share between one another. Yep. Nice.
Now what about all of this sin stuff, and about having sex outside of marriage? What do you think that is all about? Well think about it. You are in a marriage. You are in a relationship, defined as an emotional connection with another person with another person.
Why do you think that you are encouraged to do things that way? Here is one idea. When you have sex with another person, you are connecting to their spirit and their soul. You are uniting as one flesh, remember? So when you do that you are sharing all of that person’s spirit. Everything that is that person becomes you. So if you are in a loving marriage with someone, well then, you are willing to take on all that person is and work through it. But let’s say that you don’t know someone that well. And the person you decide to have sex with has had 50 partners.
You are not just having sex with that one person. You are also having sex with the 50 other people or spirits the person has had sex with. That’s pretty crazy. And all of the attachments that person has had, unless they have done some major spiritual work or cleansing with the Lord. Because only the Lord can make them clean, from a biblical standpoint. Do you want to get into bed with 50 other people? That’s a pretty crowded bedroom. You have STDs, and then you have STs, or spiritual trespassers that hang out with a person after they have sex with another person. When you are in a marriage with someone that is close to God the blood of Jesus cleanses the both of you of all that baggage. When you have sex with someone outside of that context, you never know what you are getting into. More next time.
If you are interested in learning more about making a lasting love marriage, visit the Marriage Simulcast, August 23-24 Featuring Jimmy & Karen Evans
August 23rd, Friday Evening:
6:30 PM registration
7:00-10:00 PM Simulcast
August 24th, Saturday morning:
8:30 AM Doors open
9:00 AM-12:30 PM Simulcast
Resurrection Fellowship * 6502 E Crossroads Blvd * Loveland
Simulcast will be located in the church’s main sanctuary.