We think you're near Los Angeles

Currently in Los Angeles

Location: Los Angeles Current temperature: 76°F: Current condition: Clear See Extended Forecast

How to give up control and learn to compromise


 

Here's today's quick tip:

A  little secret for those of you with a control problem: You don’t always have to be right. No matter how great your idea is, no matter how much more sense it makes, how much more efficient, more cost or time saving your way is, sometimes you should just let it go.

The fact is,  no one wants to be with someone who insists on doing it their way,  every time. Learn to pick your battles. Is it really necessary to argue about where the bookshelf should go or if the bowls should go on the top or bottom shelf of the dishwasher? In the scheme of life these minute decisions are just that, minute. If you can learn to let it go, arguments may be avoided. Your partner sees that you respect their opinion and that you believe they are just valuable as you are. Insist on doing it your way, again, and one of two things may happen. The argument that you’re all too familiar with ensues, or your partner may keep quiet on the outside, but on the inside they’ve taken note, and the resentment is building.  

So take some time and practice saying, "sure honey" or "ok, sounds like a great idea". And feel good that you're learning the art of compromise. 

Want to have a successful and fulfilling relationship? Contact Jenna for a free relationship coaching consultation.  

Advertisement

, SF Relationship Improvement Examiner

Jenna's goal in life has always been simple but not easy: to be fulfilled. Through the difficult but vital journey of self-discovery, Jenna made the necessary changes to accomplish her goal. With that newfound peace and happiness came an amazing ability to build and sustain successful...

Don't miss...