New Year’s Eve is one of those special times of the year when you can easily catch a cheating mate. The same things holds true for New Year’s Day.
So if you suspect your spouse or significant other of having an affair, now is the time to be alert.
There is something almost every cheater does this time of the year which will inadvertently give himself or herself away.
All you have to do is watch and wait. But knowing what to look for is the key. See 12 Valid Reasons to Snoop if You Suspect Your Mate May Be Cheating on You
How Cheaters Give Themselves Away
The key to catching a cheating mate on New Year’s Eve, is to observe the cheater’s behavior as it gets closet to the time to ring in the New Year, and ring out the old.
Pay close attention to person (or persons) the cheater communicates with shortly before midnight on New Year’s Eve, or first thing on New Year’s Day.
Most cheaters will find some way to communicate with their secret lover shortly before or shortly after this occasion.
Regardless of whether you and the suspected cheater are out partying with a crowd, or spending an intimate New Year’s evening together at home, this is the one thing most cheaters usually do that will easily give them away.
It will be hard for the cheater to resist the urge to contact his or her secret lover to wish them a Happy New Year.
Keep your eyes and ears open during this window of opportunity, and you might even catch the cheater in the act.
If You’re at a New Year’s Eve Party
iVillage/MSNBC’s Lust, Love and Loyalty survey found that 75% of the people cheating on their mates are having affairs with either workmates or friends. See 5 Things about the Link between Work Spouse Relationships and Workplace Affairs
So the likelihood is high that your cheating spouse or significant other is romantically involved with someone you know. It could be a neighbor, a mutual acquaintance, or possibly a family friend.
If the cheater’s lover is someone from your social circle, all three of you find yourselves together at the same New Year’s Eve party this year. If so, this gives you a golden opportunity to check things out.
Be alert for both subtle, as well as obvious for telltale signs. Whenever two lovers are in the vicinity of each other, their behavior or body language will give them away.
As mentioned before, knowing what to look for is the key.
It may be something as subtle as a look, a touch, a wink, a caress, or calling each other by a pet name. See 17 Subtle Signs That Your Marriage or Relationship is About to End and 40 Fatal Signs That You’re about to Be Dumped
Or it could be as bold, or as brazen as kissing, heavy petting, or sneaking off sex if they think the coast is clear.
Keep your eyes and ears open. There’s no telling what you might see or hear. If your spouse of significant other disappears for an extended period of time, discreetly attempt to find out where he or she is.
- Nadine happened to step out on the deck for a breath of fresh air, and found Bruce and another woman locked in a passionate embrace.
- Trish found Vinnie and their hostess having passionate sex in a guestroom on another floor.
- Brad overheard Erica thanking Dean for the beautiful ring he gave her for Christmas – the same ring Brad had questioned her about earlier, which Erica claimed to have bought for herself. See How Christmas Gifts Led to the Discovery of 3 Extramarital Affairs
Unusual Behavior on New Year’s Eve
No matter where a cheater is on New Year’s Eve, or who he or she is with, the cheater will usually try to touch base with the person with whom they’re having an affair.
Cheating spouses and their secret lovers can be quite resourceful.
There’s no end to the excuses they can invent to steal enough time to call, e-mail or text, or even make a quick visit if their affair partner lives nearby. See How to Get a Cheater to Tell You the Truth about His Affair and 9 Reasons a Cheater Will Lie About His Affair
Be suspicious of any unexplained absences, whispered conversations, or sudden errands that your spouse or significant other has to run shortly before or after midnight on New Year’s Eve.
- On her way to the ladies room, Roxanne found Kyle in a hallway with his back to her, talking on his cell phone in hushed tones. He was leaving a voice mail message (obviously to another woman) telling her he loved her and would be thinking of her tonight when the New Year came in.
- Amanda asked Jules to take her home early from the New Year’s Eve party because she didn’t feel well. Jules had an uneasy feeling, in the 2½ years they’d been dating, he’d never known Amanda to be sick. After dropping Amanda off, Jules hung around, Amanda’s apartment building, staying out of sight. Twenty minutes later, he saw Amanda leave her apartment, hail a cab, and head for points unknown.
Stories like these are all too common.
If for some reason the cheater is unable to contact his or her lover on New Year’s Eve, they’ll do so at the first opportunity on New Year’s Day.
- Around 4 a.m. in the morning, Helene caught her husband, Howard at the computer sending an e-mail to his mistress, when he thought Helene was fast asleep.
The Telltale the Cell Phone or Cell Phone Bill
Your mate’s cell phone can tell you a lot. Once again, knowing what to look for is the key.
Who was the last person they called or texted just before midnight on New Year’s Eve? Who was the last person they received a text or a phone call from? Who was the first person your mate and communicated with on January 1st, New Year’s Day.
If your spouse or significant other is cheating on you, the calls or texts messages during those critical times will be either to, or from person they’re cheating with.
If you’re not able to check the cheater’s phone, try checking the cell phone bill.
Use an online reverse phone search service to check out any suspicious or unfamiliar numbers you find. A reliable service like www.CheatingSpousePhoneSearch.com is affordable, and can tell you who the numbers belong to. See Online Resources to Help You Catch or Monitor a Cheating Mate
- Judith found the number of one of Harold’s female co-workers. She’d questioned Harold about this woman before, and was told that the numerous phone calls they made to each other were related to a project they were working on. Obviously this excuse could not explain the call Harold made to this woman on New Year’s Eve.
Stay Alert for Other Telltale Signs
Most of the signs of infidelity in this article can be found in the popular infidelity reference book, entitled Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs ,which lists practically every known sign of including the many subtle signs people usually overlook.
Keep in mind that signs of infidelity never appear in isolation.
If you find one sign, there are other corroborating signs just waiting to be found. See 5 Things about Signs of Infidelity
The majority of infidelity signs are not obvious -- they are subtle, and easily overlooked. See 17 Subtle Signs That Your Marriage or Relationship is About to End and 40 Fatal Signs That You’re about to Be Dumped
If you suspect infidelity, or are dealing with a cheating mate and need practical, immediately-usable infidelity advice, visit www.NationalInfidelity.com, or check the list of articles below for help.
You might also want to request a free copy of the special infidelity report entitled, Is He Cheating? Is She Cheating? – 21 Ways You Can Tell, which covers the 21 major categories of telltale signs. For your free copy, e-mail InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with 21 categories-Xm2012 in the subject line.
*** © copyright 2011 Ruth Houston / All Rights Reserved.
Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com, the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or have her speak at your next event, call 718 592-6029 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
For practical, immediately-usable advice from an infidelity expert who has been researching infidelity for over 18 years, visit www.NationalInfidelity.com, or see the list of articles below.
Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs (soft cover book)
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (e-book version with Affair Recovery information)