Breakups are never easy and can often leave you feeling scarred and hurt for many months after. Even if you parted on good terms there can still be lasting feelings of distrust or a difficultly to move on into a new relationship. It’s important to realise that relationship breakdown doesn’t always have to be a negative experience.
It may be helpful to think carefully about the reasons your relationship ended in the first place and see what you can draw from your experiences. It may be that you need to look for different qualities in your next partner. Perhaps there are traits you can improve within yourself such as trying to be more independent or opening yourself up to commitment. Sometimes it is only after a relationship has ended that you can really take a step back and analyse what went wrong.
If you are suffering health problems such as depression as a result of your relationship then it may be worth contacting a professional counsellor for support or even your GP. Many people who find it difficult to move on from relationship breakdown also consider more spiritual forms of guidance. Methods such as tarot reading at TheCircle are becoming increasingly popular with people looking for an alternative way to overcome their problems. Everyone is different, but often talking to someone about the way you are feeling can help you to move forward in a positive way.
It’s also worth trying to focus on yourself as an independent person. Take up some new hobbies, reconnect with old friends and concentrate on your own wellbeing for a little while.
Although painful, relationship breakdown isn’t the end of the world. It’s an experience that most of us will go through at some point in our lives but it’s important to remember that you can move on from it in a positive way.