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How to break up with your hairstylist

Breaking up is hard to do. Even with your hairdresser.
Breaking up is hard to do. Even with your hairdresser.
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Breaking up is hard to do. This statement even applies to ending a relationship with your hairstylist. You and your stylist have probably been through many important times together: the year you decided to try Bettie Page bangs, the moment of weakness when you opted to go black, maybe even the time you hacked off several inches as an outlet for your pent-up emotions. Through all your crazy phases, your trusty stylist was standing right behind you (literally).

But, alas, all good things must come to an end. For months, you felt that the thrill was gone, that your stylist was merely "going through the motions". You felt neglected when your stylist ducked out the back door for a cigarette while your perm grew frizzy and over-processed. You feel unfulfilled when you leave the salon, knowing that you look exactly the same as you did before you made the appointment. Your best friends tell you that it's time for a change, and maybe they're right. Maybe it is time to part company with your old flame and try that swanky new salon down the street.

Breaking up with your hairstylist is slightly easier than dumping a boyfriend. It doesn't have to involve an emotional scene, an angry voicemail, or the tired old "it's not you, it's me" speech. Yet many women suffer in silence, enduring lackluster trims and boring root touch-ups while pledging their unfailing loyalty to a stylist simply because they are afraid of hurting his or her feelings. This is not only unfair to you as a client, but to the stylist as well.

First, let's talk about you, the client. It's a bitter pill to swallow, but the truth is you think about your stylist much more often than he or she thinks about you. A typical stylist may service a dozen or more customers each and every day. If you come in for a trim every eight weeks, that means your stylist has probably performed about five or six hundred haircuts since your last visit. Talk about infidelity! Consider it an honor that your stylist even remembers your name! All joking aside, you need not worry about hurting your stylists' feelings. Hairstylists know that the days of monogamous stylist-client are a thing of the past. If you choose to "play the field" your stylist will understand. As with most relationships, a clean break is best. Don't explain your decision, simply stop booking appointments. It's that simple.

Finally, let's look at it from a stylists' point of view. Most decent, hard-working scissor-slingers honestly have one objective in the beauty industry, and that is a desire to please their customers. If a stylist cannot satisfy your haircare needs, you can rest assured that he or she wants nothing more than to see you with a stylist who can make you happy. A true professional understands that some stylist-client relationships are built to last, while others are destined to fizzle out like a summertime romance. Every stylist has a client or two they do not "click" with, so if you feel that the magic is gone, breaking up with your stylist just might be the best decision for everyone involved.