Back in the good old days, before the dawning of reality TV and before people battled it out to extend their 15 minutes of fame by eating a slimy bug, dating in the dark, or giving birth to 27 children at the same time; movie stars were legitimate movie stars, role models were role models for a reason, class meant something other than what you had to pass in order to hang onto your driver’s license, and people were arrested by a woman’s stunning looks rather than just being arrested. Serene, regal women such as Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis, Audrey Hepburn, and Grace Kelly were the standard women aspired to…men escorted women to the dance floor instead of chasing them around the dance floor with pelvic thrusts that rivaled John Travolta’s in Flashdance…and ladies dressed themselves in manners, dignity, and self respect rather than the bare (the operative word here being BARE) minimum of clothing that is legally required to step out in public and not go to jail or get their picture splashed on the front page of Perez Hilton.
Yep. We’ve come a long way, baby.
For a woman making her mark in the world in the year 2010, it can be confusing to know where to look for inspiration. After all, the “role models” that are currently bathing in the limelight in all their head shaving, crotch flashing, drug infused glory are hardly the stilettos we want to fill. When the alcohol monitoring bracelet has replaced the ankle bracelet as a chic fashion statement, and sex tapes are the new home videos, and rolling papers and cocaine have replaced gum and lip gloss as the “never leave home without” items in a lady’s purse (or her “friend’s purse,” as the case may be), where does the modern woman look for guidance on class and style? And when Paris Hilton is the year 2010’s answer to Cinderella, what’s a girl to do? It’s enough to make a modern-day princess wanna turn in her glass slippers and key to the palace and call it a day.
Not so fast, pretty lady.
Before you decide the wicked stepmother and the equally wicked stepsisters are a better alternative to Dina, Allie and Lindsey; step away from the leggings and spray tan and take a look at my handy little list of “How to Be a Princess in a Paris Hilton World”:
1) Less is not always more. Before you slide into your micro-mini and tube top, ask yourself: “What does this outfit say about my personality?” Before you throw “Don’t judge a book by its cover” at me, think about this: When is the last time you went out to the club on a Friday night and DIDN’T judge a book by its barely-there spandex cover? Look at the lovely Kim Kardashian and her equally lovely sisters. They always look sexy AND classy. (Yes, it’s possible to be both at the same time.) Or Angelina Jolie. Arguably the most beautiful woman in the world…and does she let it all hang out? Sure, she’ll work the strategically placed slit or the subtle peek at skin, but she always does it in a way that leaves something to the imagination. And if you leave something to the imagination…you become the girl he can’t imagine his life without.
2) The mouth of a sailor is not cute. Even if it’s adorned with the most fabulous Dior lipgloss on the shelf. Gutter mouth belongs just where its name suggests…the gutter. And do you want to be in his gutter-fabulous thoughts…or his wildest dreams? Your choice - but I’d rather leave the four-letter words at home in favor of a four-star date. You are too much of a lady to litter your language with @#$%. So leave the detonation of the F-bomb at home and get the chemistry exploding instead…with a no muss, no cuss attitude that’s sure to turn his head.
3) A hot mess is still a mess. No job, no money, overdue bills, you’ve set up camp at your parents house and all the while slamming ‘em back like someone told you beer was going extinct tomorrow…girl, no. If you’re getting high all the time on anything other than life…how do you expect to find success when all you’re making out of your life is a mess? Get it together, lady! A modern-day princess would never waste time with the court jester when she knows she‘s worthy of a prince. Nor would she get pulled over in her horse-drawn carriage for driving in the wrong lane while smoking everything but the kitchen sink and blame it on the a-a-a-a-al-co-hol. Your destiny is not going to be found at the bottom of a bottle. Go out, have fun with your friends, blow off some steam in a civilized fashion but have enough class to know when to put down the glass! Unless you plan to be viewed as a drinking buddy, a dealer, or a big, HOT MESS…realize when you’re walking the line and stay on the legal side of it. Yes, we’ve all had our nights when we went out and got a little crazy…but there comes a point and a certain age when it is no longer acceptable to have more mug shots than you do Facebook friends. Know when to say when and know when to play and when to walk away. Know your limits. You were meant for greatness…but you’ll never live up to your full potential as long as life is one endless party. Because it might be your party and yes, you can cry if you want to…but who wants to cry when you were born to fly?
At the end of the day, if you want to be a princess in a Paris Hilton world, you’ve got to stop looking to everyone else for your identity. The only face you’ll find your true identity in is your own. People and US magazine might be fun to read, but you will not find the meaning of life between their pages. (Believe me, I've read enough of them to know.) You have a destiny and a purpose that no one else on this earth can fulfill. How's THAT for one-of-a-kind? No heiress or actress or model can come CLOSE to that. And while it might be fun to imagine what life would be like in someone else’s shoes…there is NO ONE who can work your stilettos better than you! Why be a 10-cent copy when you were born a priceless masterpiece? A true modern-day princess doesn’t just talk the talk and hide behind smokescreens…she walks the walk in front of AND behind the scenes. So give those glass slippers a shine and start walkin’, lady. It’s time to come into your own and claim your throne.
And then watch your Happily Ever After come to life.