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How to be a dominatrix

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As you may already know, “Dominatrix” is a term to describe a woman that is dominant, be it in a sexual or in a romantic relationship. Also referred to as a “mistress”, the dominatrix takes the leadership in the sexual intercourse and she dominates the man, who is commonly known as a “slave”. In this case, the man is the submissive part of the relationship, abiding by all the rules set by the dominatrix. The two mutually agree on the aspects that are to be controlled, and on the boundaries that ought to be respected. People often engage in dominant-submissive relationships because they have a strong urge to be dominated and humiliated (be it sexually, verbally or physically) or because they want to dominate and to feel powerful. If you have decided to partake as a mistress, here are the steps on how to be a dominatrix you need to take:

1. Set The Boundaries

The first and most important thing about being a dominatrix is to understand that there has to be a limit. Even when the submissive part tells you to stop, part of the fun is not stopping and continuing with what you have to do. However, there has to be a safe word that you have agreed upon with your partner, before you start the dominating session. Some men get off when they feel pain or humiliation, but if you push it too far and you take your dominant side a mile further, this can turn out to be uncomfortable and rather unpleasant for the dominated. When you, as a dominatrix, hear the safe word – you need to stop what you are doing! Read more:[Adding Adventure in Bondage]

2. Don’t Be Afraid To Experiment

Curiosity is perfectly normal, and all people want to experiment sooner or later in life. When engaging in a dominant-submissive relationship, there are many things you can experiment with, as the BDSM field is quite complex. You can try mouth gags, blind folds that will prevent the slave from seeing what’s next, restraints like handcuffs or ropes and even hardcore sexual toys. Part of being a good dominatrix means that you need to understand that a dominant-submissive relationship is supposed to give pleasure to both of you, not to just one part. View: Pictures of a naughty dominatrix

3. Dress As A Dominatrix!

In order to be a dominatrix, you must dress and act like one. However, it is extremely important to know where your role stops – contrary to popular belief, only a very small percentage of those who engage in a slave-master relationship actually play the role on a non-stop basis. While being a dominatrix is still considered a taboo in many countries, in some countries (especially in assigned districts) it is not uncommon to see dominant women walking their slaves down the street. Read more: [Getting started with kinky sex]

That being said, it is important to understand the “dress code“ that applies to dominant women. You can choose to be on the classy side or you can choose to be on the rough, hardcore side with chains, whips and piercings. Your clothes should be dictated by the extent of your role, by your personality and allure and by your preferences. Generally speaking, dominant women like to wear leather or latex closed coupled with high heel stilettos or boots and revealing undergarments.

4. Set The Boundaries

Some women choose to become dominatrix for the fun and the sexual arousal, while others do it for money. Regardless of the reason why you have chosen to become one, it is very important to stay discrete with all the men (or women) that you meet for dominating sessions. People who engage in BDSM activities usually live perfectly normal and healthy lives, although some of the slaves may be carried away by the entire game and insist on getting more. This is why it is advised to set the boundaries and to avoid revealing personal information. Being a dominatrix is a role play done for pleasure, and that is how it should stay. Everybody has a private life and a public life, and one’s right to a private life should always be respected. Read more: [BDSM lifestyle and its benefits]

5. Stay Open-Minded

One of the most important characteristics of being a dominatrix is your mentality. Try to be as open-minded as possible. Never judge those you have interactions with (especially as a dominatrix), and never underestimate your slave as submissive parts can come from various backgrounds and they can have different academic training. In closing, you may want to take a while to read up on some dominatrix stories. This will help you get some great ideas on what is expected and what to expect. A great place for dominatrix stories can be found here: Female dominant stories

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