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How soon is too soon?

I know this girl who recently got out of a relationship. However, she got out of the relationship by finding someone else so that she could move on. I'm not judging, but I think that many girls do this. For that matter, guys do the same. Some people need to have someone else lined up before they break something off. Is it fear of being alone? Is it the excitement of someone new? I don't know, but I wonder how healthy it is for the new relationship.

We've probably all been guilty of jumping into something a little too quickly, but I like to think that we change our ways as we grow older and wiser. My friend has been in a long distance relationship for a year or so. Her boyfriend was planning on moving to Atlanta this year. For the past 5 months or so, they argue all the time and she says that she is over it every other day.

Fast forward and she gets a facebook message from a friend of a friend. They start talking, one thing leads to another, and before you know it they've spent every single night together for weeks straight. She finally broke things off with the boyfriend after she and the new guy had hung out once or twice. Personally, I think this might be moving a bit fast, but on the other hand, you have to live in the moment.

My advice for my readers-follow your gut instinct. If you need someone new to have fun with, go for it. However, if you really like the person and you feel it might ruin things, wait it out. If it's meant to be, it will be. What are your thoughts? Have you ever been in a similar situation?

Comments

  • Charlene Collins - Atlanta Family Health Examiner 4 years ago

    Personally, I think it is kind of low to have someone lined up before breaking it off with the one you are with. I believe in not bringing baggage from one relationship into another; therefore I believe in waiting at least a year before getting into another relationship. I would want to know that I am not going to punish guy number 2 for what guy number 1 did to me, and the only way to do that is to give myself time to heal and know myself.

  • Charlene Collins - Atlanta Family Health Examiner 4 years ago

    Forgot to mention - Great article!

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