In last week’s article I posed the question about which wolf you are feeding and how to feed the wolf you want to feed.
The question posed today is, how responsible am I?
This answer to this question is often a tough pill for people to swallow. Many of us in the spiritual community already know that according to the metaphysical paradigm that says you are the creator of your experience – you are 100% responsible - period!
Now there are various paradoxes associated within this paradigm; however, the major premise is that each one of us is responsible for the life we are experiencing.
Notice I did not say for the life we are living. That is one of the paradoxical sides that I will possibly address at a later date.
For now, the key principle is that you are responsible for your experience.
When I am explaining this concept to clients or congregants who are just getting into the metaphysical side of spirituality, I give them these:
In the final analysis, the questions of why bad things happen to good people transmutes itself into some very different questions, no longer asking why something happened, but asking how we will respond, what we intend to do now that it happened.
~Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
Things present themselves to you, and it’s how you choose to deal with them that reveals who you are. We all say a lot of things, don't we, about who we are and how we think. But in the end it's your actions, how you respond to circumstance that reveals your character.
Life is 10% what happens and 90% how you respond to it.
In each situation we choose how we respond and in that response is sown the seeds of creation. Our response to the driver who passes us carries a price that we must reap. The reaction of road rage does nothing to the other driver. So you beeped your horn, so you gave them the middle finger, so you hurled obscenities, so what. What did that give you? What was the benefit? You are the one who raised your blood pressure, levels of cortizol, and testosterone as you responded in anger. And suppose the driver of that car fires back in anger. Then what, a shouting match or a battle of machismo the likes of which cause wars and death?
We create with each choice we make and each choice we make is made based upon the paradigms, beliefs, and feelings we possess.
If you have a paradigm that believes your new sneakers are to be respected and pristine, then you will be ready to fight when someone accidentally steps on them and scuffs them.
I recall witnessing many a fight while in high school over such infractions.
Think about your buttons and pet peeves. Where do they come from and what benefit do you reap for keeping them?
Do they bring you more peace of mind?
Do they assist you in creating the type of life and experiences you desire?
Do you like being upset when your buttons are pushed?
Whatever you are experiencing in life, if you are experiencing it, you created it (or co-created it with the Divine), manifested it, demonstrated it, attracted it, etc. The ways of expressing the concept are infinite and yet the underlying idea is the same and that is that YOU are responsible for your life experiences 100%
There used to be a show on Unity radio (unity.fm) called “Absolute Living” and the 2 hosts would discuss this idea of “absolutism” weekly. This was an interesting show to be sure!
Many controversial ideas were being discussed, so much in fact that the hosts on one occasion that I recall were accused of potentially practicing metaphysical malpractice, because they presupposed some very challenging ideas that caused such dilemma as these to arise:
So a person is blind, are you saying that they created their blindness?
Someone is in a car accident and their best friend dies in the crash, did the survivor manifest that? Did the one who died, manifest their death?
Do we manifest war? Homelessness? Drug addiction? Divorce? Gay bashing?
That is a different topic for a different day for sure considering it takes us into that paradox I spoke of before.
It is enough for us today to simply agree on the following:
- I have the power to choose my thoughts and beliefs.
- My life is shaped by what I think and believe.
- If I change what I think and believe, it will affect my life and experiences.
- Having this ability demonstrates that I do in fact have the ability to at least in some ways, regardless of large or small, to alter, change, create my life experiences.
- It is safe to say that if I can alter in any degree, then I can potentially alter on a larger scale to varying degrees.
And lastly, if I do have the ability to alter my life experiences, then I am responsible for those experiences.
The person who hates his or her job is responsible for their experience; this person has choices. They can look for a new job, change departments, simply quit, remain in a job they hate, and learn to meditate and find a sense of peace with the “source” of the hatred, etc. There are choices in how to handle every experience in life. That is the exercise for today.
Look at your life and identify where you may have felt it was beyond your control and see where you do have a choice; possibly a choice in how you can respond from now on and how that response will in turn change what you experience from now on.
You do in fact have the power and you in fact are responsible for the quality of your life and experiences.