Could a comment that your last boyfriend said about your pants showing your pudge really affect your ability to Orgasm? And the quality and ease of your Orgasms? What about your mother ignoring you when you got picked on at school? Emotional abuse can affect not only your Orgasms, but your quality of life. From situations you are currently experiencing and allowing, to those of you childhood, and even infancy.
According to a study by the Women's College Hospital, 36% of women surveyed had experienced emotional abuse while growing up. Since emotional abuse is often over sighted, undocumented, and unrecognized, even deemed unimportant, or "all in our heads", it is much more likely that the statistics are much higher and the impact incredible. Add to that the fact that many who do recognize their emotional or childhood abuse are too ashamed to admit it, they don't want to have that intense perceived judgement of society as being a "victim". Yet the strength and courage in your honesty, helps you to feel validated, and then to move on and empower yourself through that adversity as a survivor and thriver.
According to ASCA "Behavioral signs that may suggest emotional abuse include constant approval-seeking; self-criticism; letting oneself be taken advantage of; excessive timidity or quiet aggression; indecisiveness; fear of rejection from others; and verbally hostile, provocative or abusive behavior." Can you honestly say that you haven't experienced some or most of this?
If you are constantly seeking approval, how can you behave in the bedroom in a way that you truly desire and feel comfortable with? How can you Orgasm for your pleasure when you are constantly trying to please someone else? Most women fear being perceived a certain way, whether it may be that there is something wrong with them if they don't Orgasm the way they think the men are expecting them to, based on previous lovers or even from what they see in porn. But women can't read a man's mind, so this is all based on conjecture or pure guessing games. A lot of men don't even know what they want, so again, women put themselves out there, and try so hard to fill these imaginary shoes. What kind of success can truly be ordained for that type of behavior? What kind of pleasure does it have in it for you?
The lack of confidence and respect for oneself, with a deeper fear of being taken advantage by others, leads to just that, being taken advantage of by others. So the quickest way to improving your Orgasm? Start putting yourself on a pedestal instead of everyone else. And start Orgasming for you.
As you transform one simple perspective, you will change, the men you attract will change, and as you begin to step into your personal power, your power as a woman, you will sit back in awe as the whole world changes around you. All while you are having the best Orgasms of your Life, with yourself. And eventually with a partner too, if he should be so lucky that you choose him.
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