College is supposed to be the best four years of your life. And as many new and returning students hit the sidewalks of college campuses across the country, many are thinking more about their relationship status than they are about their academics. Many are told to be single and date around, that you shouldn't be tied down in a relationship in college. But is that really the right thinking?
- Friends with benefits - The friends with benefits concept suggests that you can have a casual friendship with someone and still sleep with them with no strings attached. This may sound like a good idea because on the surface, you are able to sleep with someone you are (hopefully) attracted to, and at the same time have your autonomy and independence that you so want while in college. But, don't be fooled! There is no such thing as "no strings attached". There are always strings, no matter how invisible they may be. Someone at some point is bound to "catch feelings" or "get in their feelings".
- Your 20s are for sleeping around - A lot of older people tend to say "You're 20s are for sleeping around" because that's either what they did or what they wish they had done. But the truth is, you don't have to sleep around in your 20s. Your body count and who you sleep with should be your choice. It should be something you do because you want to, not because you think that's what people your age are doing or are supposed to be doing. Do what you want to do! It's your life. Don't let other people tell you what type of experience you should or should not have.
- Multiple relationships - It is very tempting to attempt to "juggle" multiple people at one time, especially in college. If you have two or three people you are interested in, you may be able to date them all at once (at different times of course), but this can get very tricky. Be sure to work out your schedule and don't get confused!!!! The key here is to try to be as honest with them as possible. If you are just casually dating or going on a date with these individuals, you don't owe them any explanation. But if at any point you start to get serious with one, you have to either cut off the others or tell everyone involved.
- YOLO - This YOLO phrase is very popular and has lead to many people doing things they otherwise would have thought twice about. Second piece of cheesecake? YOLO! Random road trip I can't afford? YOLO! Party the night before a big exam? YOLO! But don't let YOLO get you in trouble, especially in matters of the heart. Remember that, while you may only live once (depending on your religious beliefs), you still (hopefully) will live to see the consequences of your decisions. Don't just make stupid choices and big mistakes in the name of Drake and call it YOLO. Seriously think about what you're doing and who you could be hurting.
What do you think? Is it impossible to have a monogamous relationship in college?