How did I get here

So, I just wrapped up another three-part video/audio series on SA’s SPOT, my weekly Blog Talk Radio show. This series, titled “How Did I Get Here?”, speaks to the conditions that many of us find ourselves in, yet blame others for us being in such conditions. This kind of behavior often trickles down not only into the realities of the relationship that we have somehow found ourselves in, but it also gets transferred to our parental roles; ultimately affecting the lives of our children. If I am unable to ascertain information about self, the place where I exist, how can I possibly begin to read another’s character, or even provide my child with direction on how to have self-acceptance. Throughout all of our lives, we are seeking to pursue the pleasures of life. When that path of pursuits gets interrupted by the realities of life, we get flustered and then begin to seek relief from these realities in a variety of ways; many of which are unhealthy and impediments to our desired pursuits. Addiction of any type, coupled with a pre-occupation of self are intrusive to our well-being and a great part of the mystery about why we are usually unfulfilled. I, like the rest of humanity, seek to feel good, but usually make the wrong selection of so-called “feel good” elements. What attracts us is what we really are, but we have difficulty seeing this because of those things obscured from view due to the way we see life. Hurt is often suppressed within our mind, but in plain view to others because anything suppressed will unconsciously present itself. I will always use the analogy of music. There are some songs that I hear from the late seventies into the eighties that make me sad, yet I cannot pinpoint why. I only remember that time period being a difficult one. If I truly wanted to find out why, I would only have to sit and reminisce about events taking place at that time. Delving into such can be very painful, which is why we consciously make ourselves oblivious to it, yet because we have no control over what our subconscious does it presents to others. Hence the reason for blaming others for whatever unhappiness we experience in life. I am glad to have been given a foundation in my life today that affords me the freedom to own who I am; knowing now, whose I am. My creation, and coming into existence has little to do with man, so why then do I place total reliance upon man for what I have become, or seek to be? When raising our children in religion, we must encourage more reading of their practices, which enables them to embed within, as opposed to telling them, filtered through our assumed truths. The same holds true for those not practicing religion. Providing our children with literature that teaches self-awareness as opposed to merely raising them under our developed idealism can be detrimental to the in the long run; making our lives even more complicated than intended. "What you eat does not make me…" I think you know the rest. Be free, and free others. You are here (in condition) by your own volition; therefore removal from such is a choice. If I am unhappy with a person, place, or thing, I have the choice to stay or go. Our children are not afforded the same when we are given the charge from their birth to guide them into self. Save yourself first, then save your children.