How Christmas gifts led to the discovery of 3 extramarital affairs

Christmas gifts can often alert an unsuspecting spouse or significant other that their mate is having an affair. See Christmas is a Good Time to Catch a Cheating Mate

A Christmas gift bought by the cheater for his or her lover, or a gift the cheater has received, received, is usually what gives the cheater away. See Christmas Gifts Can Expose a Cheating Mate –What to Look for

Sometimes the first clue that a spouse or significant other is cheating is the discovery of a gift-related sign of infidelity around Christmastime. See 8 Christmas Gift-Related Signs of Infidelity That Can Expose a Cheating Man

PHOTOS: How Christmas Gifts Can Expose a Cheating Mate

Such was the case with the 3 real-life Christmas infidelity stories below.

NOTE: Names have been changed to protect the identities of the individuals involved.
 
 

Christmas Infidelity Story #1
Kim’s Husband and Kim’s Best Friend

While searching for a missing glove in the closet, Kim came across a small elegantly wrapped Christmas gift in distinctive gold foil on the back of the closet shelf.

Thinking she’d accidentally discovered one of Lance’s Christmas gifts to her, Kim put the gift back in its hiding place, and eagerly waited for Christmas day. See Gift-Related Signs of Infidelity that Show Up Around Christmastime

But on Christmas day, there was no small gold box among the gifts Kim received from Lance, so she asked him if he’d forgotten one of her gifts. Lance said he had no idea what she was talking about, so Kim confessed she’d found the small gold-wrapped gift. See 5 Ways Christmas Gifts Can Expose Your Cheating Mate – What To Look For

But Lance insisted there was no such gift. So Kim went to the closet to get the gift, and discovered that it was no longer there. Obviously Lance had given the gift to someone else, and a heated argument ensued.

Kim angrily stormed out of the house and went to her girlfriend Regina’s place to tell her about the missing Christmas gift, hoping Regina could help her figure out what to.

But Regina had guests when Kim arrived, so Kim couldn’t talk to her about her problem right away.

Meanwhile, was Regina proudly showing her Christmas gifts to everyone there, including the expensive watch she got from the new “mystery man” she’d been dating for the past 3 months.

As Kim patiently waited to speak to Regina alone, something caught her eye. Among the pile of discarded gift wrap near Regina’s Christmas tree, was some crumpled, but familiar-looking gold foil. It was the same distinctive gold foil wrapping paper Kim had seen on the small box she found on the closet shelf.

Taking a second look at the box Regina’s watch came in, Kim was fairly certain it was the same size.

Making an excuse, Kim abruptly left Regina’s place, deeply disturbed by what was on her mind.

It was slowly dawning on Kim that her husband and her best friend were probably having an affair. The more Kim thought about the situation as she drove home, the more convinced she became that what she suspected was true. See Why the Wife is STILL the Last to Know

Kim burst into the house and confronted Lance, saying, “ I just came from Regina’s. You gave her a watch for Christmas. How could you cheat on me with my best friend?” See Who You Should and Shouldn’t Tell That He’s Cheating on You

Assuming that Regina told Kim they were having an affair, Lance confessed. Kim put him out that very same night. See How to Get a Cheater to Tell You the Truth about His Affair and 9 Reasons a Cheater Will Lie About His Affair

 
 

Christmas Infidelity Story #2
Patrick’s Wife and Her Personal Trainer

The day after Christmas, Patrick noticed Allegra wearing a ring when she came home from the gym. There were a couple of reasons this struck Patrick as being odd.

One, Allegra never wore jewelry when she went to the health club to work out.

Two, he was familiar with his Allegra’s jewelry, and he’d never seen this particular ring before. See Gift-Related Signs of Infidelity that Show Up Around Christmastime

Allegra was evasive when Patrick questioned her. Then Patrick caught her in a lie. She told Patrick she bought the ring for herself 2 weeks ago, but couldn’t remember what store she bought it from, or how much it cost, and didn’t even have a receipt. See 9 Reasons a Cheater Will Lie About His Affair and How to Get a Cheater to Tell You the Truth about His Affair

Upon being questioned further by Patrick, Allegra finally admitted that the ring was a gift from her personal trainer at the gym. Her excuse was that Vlad was not from this country and didn’t realize that the ring was an inappropriate Christmas gift. Allegra said she kept the ring because she didn’t want to insult Vlad, or hurt his feelings by refusing to accept his gift. See 5 Ways Christmas Gifts Can Expose Your Cheating Mate – What To Look For

PHOTOS: How Christmas Gifts Can Expose a Cheating Mate

Now suspicious, Patrick started lurking around Allegra’s health club asking questions when she wasn’t there. He found out there was no personal trainer named Vlad. See 12 Valid Reasons to Snoop if You Suspect Your Mate May Be Cheating on You

One evening, staying out of sight, Patrick went to the health club and waited for Allegra to leave. A man walked Allegra to her car, gave her a passionate goodbye kiss, and then went back inside.

Eventually Patrick found out that the man he saw Allegra with was indeed a personal trainer. But his name was not Vlad. It was Vic. And he was obviously having an affair with Patrick’s wife. See Men Who are Victims of Female Infidelity are Usually the Last to Know

 
 

Christmas Infidelity Story #3
Octavia’s Husband and the Lingerie for His Mistress

Octavia found a Victoria’s Secret catalog mixed in with the sports magazines on the small table next to Steve’s favorite chair. The mailing label had been ripped off the cover, so Octavia couldn’t see who Steve might have gotten the catalog from.

Since some of the pages were turned down, and specific items were marked, Octavia assumed that Steve was planning to surprise her with sexy lingerie for Christmas, this year.

When Christmas day came and went, and there was no sexy lingerie as a Christmas gift from Steve, Octavia figured Steve must have changed his mind. See 5 Ways Christmas Gifts Can Expose Your Cheating Mate – What To Look For

But in January, when their credit card bills arrived, Octavia found a charge from Victoria’s Secret for over $150 worth of lingerie. Now she started to wonder who Steve bought lingerie for, since it definitely wasn’t for her. See Gift-Related Signs of Infidelity that Show Up Around Christmastime

Octavia now started paying closer attention to Steve’s comings and goings, and kept her eyes peeled for signs of infidelity. In a few weeks she found enough evidence to confirm, that Steve was indeed having an affair. See12 Valid Reasons to Snoop if You Suspect Your Mate May Be Cheating on You

Had Octavia not been alerted by the Victoria’s Secret catalog, she might never have suspected that Steve was cheating on her. See Why the Wife is STILL the Last to Know

 
 

Don’t Overlook the Other Telltale Signs

Signs of infidelity never occur in isolation. See 5 Things about Signs of Infidelity

Where there’s one sign, there are usually dozens of others just waiting to be found. Knowing what to look for is the key. See 12 Valid Reasons to Snoop if You Suspect Your Mate May Be Cheating on You

Other signs of infidelity to be alert for around Christmastime, as well as other times of the year, can be found in the chapters on Day-to-Day Behavior, Physical Evidence, and Financial Affairs, in the popular infidelity reference book entitled Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs.

PHOTOS: How Christmas Gifts Can Expose a Cheating Mate

This popular infidelity reference book lists practically every known sign of infidelity, including the many subtle signs people usually overlook. See 17 Subtle Signs That Your Marriage or Relationship is About to End

 
 

More Christmas-related Infidelity Articles to Come

As part of my annualChristmas Infidelity Awareness Campaign, I’ll be posting several more articles over the next few days with signs of infidelity that can be found specifically around Christmastime, as well as tips on how to catch a cheater on New Year’s Eve or New Year’s Day. See Why Christmas is an Excellent Time to Catch a Cheating Mate

Many of them are taken from the popular infidelity reference book entitled Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs ,which lists practically every known sign of infidelity, including the many subtle signs people usually overlook.

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Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com, the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or have her speak at your next event, call 718 592-6029 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com

For practical, immediately-usable advice from an infidelity expert who has been researching infidelity for over 18 years, visit www.NationalInfidelity.com, or see the list of articles below.

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