Some cheating husbands routinely send their wives and children to
the shore, the lake, or their summer home, so they'll be free to have
a summer fling. Photo: istockohoto.com
Infidelity increases during the summer months. It’s easier for cheating husbands and cheating boyfriends to initiate a summer fling or cover up a short-term love affair during this season of the year.
A cheating spouse who is already involved in an extramarital affair will find it easier during the summer to steal large blocks of time to spend with his mistress, and his wife will never know.
Some of the tactics these cheating men use to hide their summer flings are described below.
Sending the Wife (and Kids) Away
Some husbands routinely send their wife and kids to the shore, the lake, the mountains, the country, or to visit relatives in another state. Or a cheating husband or boyfriend may treat his wife or girlfriend to a trip he knows she can’t resist (a Caribbean cruise, a week at a world-class spa or fancy resort) to pave the way for “summer play.” Not only has he cleverly and conveniently removed you from the scene, he gets points for being a generous and thoughtful mate. Once you’re safely out of the way, he can have his summer fling.
The Separate Vacation Scheme
If your spouse or significant other suddenly suggests that the two of you take separate vacations this year, this could be a warning sign. Especially if he’s a little too insistent about getting away from you and the kids. If he keeps harping about how he needs “space” this summer so he can do his own thing, try to find out where he wants to go. The separate vacation scheme is a common ploy summer cheaters use to lay the groundwork for a summer fling. What is it that he wants to do that doesn’t include you? If he’s lobbying a little too hard for time alone, you might want to re-think your summer plans.
Counterfeit Conventions and Bogus Business Trips
Business travel is often used to camouflage a cheating husband’s summer fling. If he travels frequently for business, he can easily invent a counterfeit convention or a bogus business trip. But even a legitimate trip can provide a cover story for a cheating boyfriend or husband who wants to have a summer fling. All he has to do is tack on a few extra days to allow for fun and games. See Business travel and infidelity - how cheating men use business travel to hide their affairs
Fake Fishing Trips and Other Outdoor Adventures
A cheating husband or cheating boyfriend will often disguise a weekend trip with his summer fling as some type of male-bonding trip with other guys – like deep-sea fishing, rock-climbing, white-water rafting or a similar activity. He knows that if he misrepresents a tryst with his mistress as being a guys-only rugged outdoor adventure, or extreme sports trip with no women allowed, you won’t ask to tag along. It’s up to you to determine whether he’s really hiking the Appalachian Trail with his buddies, or sailing the seas with his summer fling.
Tips on How to Spot the Signs of a Summer Fling
Not every man who travels, sends his family to the shore, or treats his girlfriend to a dream vacation is setting the stage for a summer affair. But these are the tactics cheating husbands and cheating boyfriends commonly use to hide a summer fling.
To avoid being a victim of summer infidelity, women should put a few checks and balances in place, and familiarize themselves with the signs of a summer fling. For a free tip sheet with some key signs of summer infidelity, e-mail SummerInfidelity@gmail.com with the words “Summer Infidelity Signs - Xm” in the subject line.
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Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com , the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or have her speak at your next event, call 718 592-6029 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
For more information on spotting the signs of a summer fling, or dealing with summer infidelity, see:
How 3 Women Discovered their Husbands Were Having a Summer Affair
Is Your Husband or Boyfriend One of the 3 Types of Men Who Typically Have Summer Affairs?
Why Men are More Likely Than Women to Have Summer Flings
Separate Vacations Play a Prominent Role in Summer Infidelity
3 Things a Wife Stands to Lose by Being the Last to Know
Why the Wife is STILL the Last to Know
Will You be the Next Wife or Girlfriend to Become a Victim of Infidelity? - a Quiz
Why Most Cheaters Don’t Get Caught
What NOT to Do if He's Cheating on You
Is He Cheating? – Is She Cheating? 21 Ways You Can Tell (free tip sheet)
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (softcover book)
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (e-book version with Affair Recovery information)
Infidelity Resources to Help You Catch a Cheating Mate
Free Infidelity Tip Sheets and Special Reports
Comments
I hope this article is supposed to be humorous. Because it was. It sounds like it was written by a woman who has been cheated on a million times. The question is why was she cheated on so much? I'm guessing she runs all her men into the ground. This article sucked.
So I guess the message here is that either wives/girlfriends don't cheat, or that only wives/girlfriends need an article to tell them that a business trip may be a cover for an affair. Kind of insults both genders.
I loved the two previous comments...they are so true. Holy bitter bat, man. The woman writing this article is obviously a man hater/eater. Helllooooo! the nineteen fifties called and they want their morals back!! women cheat, too, you know. woman also have sketchy "business trips".And lusty vacations. I sure did not get into this marriage just so that I could spend every minute worrying about whether my husband cheated on me. LAME! This article was an epic fail for all sexes and genders.
More Expert Opinions on Summer Infidelity
The 3 experts below agree that there is, indeed, an increase in infidelity during the summer months.
Diana Kirschner, PhD, psychologist, therapist, New York
Daniel Kruger, PhD, evolutionary psychologist at the University of Michigan at Ann Arbor.
Helen Fisher, PhD Biological Anthropologist, Research Professor and member of the Center for Human Evolution Studies in the Department of Anthropology at Rutgers University
Check out what these experts have to say about summer infidelity.
Statements from all 3 experts appear in the article entitled Why Guys Cheat in the Summer at the link below:
shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/why-guys-cheat-in-the-summer-1829339
For more information about summer infidelity, see the other articles in my 5th annual Summer Infidelity Awareness Campaign. (See the sidebar on this page, or the links at the end of the article above.)
Ruth Houston
National Infidelity Examiner
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