How 3 unsuspecting wives accidentally discovered they were the victims of
summer infidelity. One woman's husband faked a fishing trip to hide his
summer fling. Photo: istockphoto.com / LUNAMARINA
Summer is the cheating season. Infidelity and extramarital affairs usually flourish this time of the year. According to statistics, 50% to 70% of husbands cheat on their wives. A good percentage of these affairs take place during the summer months. See
Most Summer Affairs Go Undetected
Studies reveal that 2/3 of the wives whose husbands are cheating have no idea their husbands are having an affair. Most summer infidelity goes undetected because it’s easier for cheating husbands to hide their extramarital affairs. See How Cheating Husbands and Cheating Boyfriends Hide a Summer Fling.
Some wives catch on quickly to what their husbands are up to and quickly nip these summer affairs in the bud. Other women find out about these summer flings quite by accident. Let’s take a look at how 3 unsuspecting wives accidentally discovered they were the victims of summer infidelity.
The Summer Family Retreat
Sharon and Fred always rent a beach house during the summer months. Since Fred works in the city, he drives out to spend weekends with his family, and returns home Sunday night for work the next week. One Wednesday, the kids and their friends next door planned a big beach party. Sharon took the train back to the city to pick up some party favors from their apartment that she thought the kids could use. When Sharon entered the apartment, she found 2 wine glasses on the kitchen counter, the remains of a dinner for two, and candles on the dining table that had burnt down halfway. In their bedroom, on the unmade bed were satin sheets she’d never seen before, and an empty champagne bottle on the nightstand next to the bed.
It’s not uncommon for husbands to play while their wives are away. Some husbands routinely send the wife and kids to the beach, the lake, the country, or to visit relatives in another state, with this in mind. Most wives have no idea what their husbands are up to while they’re away. Instead of sitting home watching the ballgame on TV, eating pizza and drinking beer, he’s wining and dining his ladylove.
The Fictitious Fishing Trip
Marcy never gave it a second thought when Hank left early one morning for a 3-day fishing trip – supposedly with the guys. Later that afternoon, their neighbor asked to borrow Hank’s pruning shears, so Marcy went to get them from the storage shed. Imagine her surprise when she noticed Hank’s fishing gear still in its usual place. In his haste to get away for the weekend trip with his mistress, Hank forgot to take along his fishing gear to back up his alibi.
Cheating husbands often disguise vacations with their mistress as fishing, camping or rafting trips with the guys. They know their wives are unlikely to question “guys only” outdoor activities or extreme sports, and rarely ask to tag along. While you’re under the assumption that he’s hiking the Appalachian Trail with his buddies, he’s actually holed up with his honey in a cabin by the lake.
The Bogus Business Trip
Normally Claire accompanied Larry on his business trips. But this time she wasn’t invited to come along. Larry said he had an unusually heavy schedule with seminars all day and client meetings at night. Feeling uneasy about Larry’s business trip, Claire called his office pretending to be a client needing to get in touch with him. No one mentioned anything about the business conference Larry told Claire he had to attend. She was told that Larry was on much-needed vacation and would be unreachable by phone until he returned the following week. Claire was referred to the colleague who was handling Larry’s accounts.
Trysts with the mistress are often disguised as bogus business trips. But even valid business trips can give a cheating husband a chance to cheat far from the sight of prying eyes. If he’s attending a summer conference with female co-workers, a budding office romance could blossom into a full blown affair. Are his trips occurring more frequently or lasting longer than usual? A cheating husband can always add a few extra days to a legitimate business trip so he can spend that time with his lover.
What to Do About Summer Affairs
If you think your husband could be planning to have a summer affair, don’t make it easy for him to cheat. Learn to spot the signs of summer infidelity. A cheating husband who gets away with his summer fling will be more inclined to do it again next year. See Is Your Husband or Boyfriend One of the 3 Types of Men Who Typically Have summer Affairs?
Safeguard your marriage by putting some checks and balances in place. and familiarizing yourself with the signs of a summer fling. For a free tip sheet with some key signs of summer infidelity, e-mail SummerInfidelity@gmail.com with the words “Summer Infidelity Signs - Xm” in the subject line. If your husband is having a summer fling, you can’t afford to be the last to know.
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*** © copyright 2010 Ruth Houston All Rights Reserved.
Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com , the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or have her speak at your next event, call 718 592-6029 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
For more information on spotting the signs of a summer fling, or dealing with summer infidelity, see:
How Cheating Husbands and Cheating Boyfriends Hide a Summer Fling
Is Your Husband or Boyfriend One of the 3 Types of Men Who Typically Have Summer Affairs?
Why Men are More Likely Than Women to Have Summer Flings
Separate Vacations Play a Prominent Role in Summer Infidelity
3 Things a Wife Stands to Lose by Being the Last to Know
Why the Wife is STILL the Last to Know
Will You be the Next Wife or Girlfriend to Become a Victim of Infidelity? - a Quiz
Why Most Cheaters Don’t Get Caught
What NOT to Do if He's Cheating on You
Is He Cheating? – Is She Cheating? 21 Ways You Can Tell (free tip sheet)
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (softcover book)
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (e-book version with Affair Recovery information)
Infidelity Resources to Help You Catch a Cheating Mate
Free Infidelity Tip Sheets and Special Reports
Comments
Saying things like "not uncommon for husbands to play while their wives are away" makes it sound like affairs are just something husbands "do" and that women should deal with them.
Having an affair is NOT OKAY, it's not COMMON and shouldn't be treated as such.
The number 50 to 70 percent of men have affairs is INACCURATE -- dating sites catering to cheaters report that number. Responsible journalists know better.
Where do you find these crazy numbers -- and this business of "statistics say" whose statistics? The ONLY accurate statistics come from research centers not individuals.
PLEASE document so readers can figure out the truth!
Thanks ever/ R
Rita,
Inaccurate because YOU don’t AGREE?
Responsible journalists use figures based on statistics from MULTIPLE SOURCES.
Responsible journalists know that research centers aren't the only ones conducting research - organizations, corporations, media outlets, universities conduct research too.
Responsible journalists do NOT dogmatically insist that accurate statistics come from one source only.
The infidelity figure I use is based on an average of statistics from MULTIPLE sources monitored over a period of 16 years.
The figure you consistently use and repeatedly insist is the ONLY accurate statistic, comes from ONE SOURCE only- NORC –whose stats are FACTORED INTO the infidelity figures I use.
Responsible journalists do research by seeking out statistics from MULTIPLE SOURCES.
Responsible journalists do NOT take figures from a single source and dogmatically insist that any other figure is wrong – not even knowing the sources that contributed to that figure.
More Expert Opinions on Summer Infidelity
The 3 experts below agree that there is, indeed, an increase in infidelity during the summer months.
Diana Kirschner, PhD, psychologist, therapist, New York
Daniel Kruger, PhD, evolutionary psychologist at the University of Michigan at Ann Arbor.
Helen Fisher, PhD Biological Anthropologist, Research Professor and member of the Center for Human Evolution Studies in the Department of Anthropology at Rutgers University
Check out what these experts have to say about summer infidelity.
Statements from all 3 experts appear in the article entitled Why Guys Cheat in the Summer at the link below
shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/why-guys-cheat-in-the-summer-1829339
For additional information about summer infidelity, see the other articles in my 5th Summer Infidelity Awareness Campaign. (See the sidebar on this page, or the links at the end of the article above.)
Ruth Houston
National Infidelity Examiner
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