Honesty is the guest that everyone wants at the party, but no one wants to hear what he has to say. We claim to want the truth, the whole truth and nothing but. But are we lying to ourselves? Do you really want your soon to be ex-boyfriend to tell you, "I don't want to be with you because I found someone I care about more than you?" Seriously, think about all the times you've said you just wish people would stop playing games. But do we force ourselves to be played with when we refuse to take the clues that are the hints to the truth?
What would a world with no game playing really look like?
"If it is not right, do not do it. If it is not true, do not say it." Marcus Aurelius, a Roman emperor said this, but oh how easier said than done. Will there ever be a world where game playing is no longer a part of dating?
Let's be clear. We've all lied for one reason or another. And there is no doubt, that we've all lied in order to get out of a relationship or two with the least amount of emotional damage possible. But we also lie about other things like how great sex is with our significant other, or when our friends that we've not seen in a while ask us if we are happily married and we say yes, when really we are hiding some secret that we do not wish to share.
Fastly approaches a ten year reunion. It is hard to believe so many years have passed since the time of innocent, ignorant love. This event has forced me into a state of reflection and I propose that we all get a little more honest with ourselves and each other. But with this proposal comes some major responsibility. We can not get angry at the truth. We can be hurt. We can be confused. We can disagree at best. But we must never be angry, because at the end of the day, honesty will save us a lot of time.
"If you love life, don't wast time. For time is what life is made up of." - Bruce Lee
Let's stop wasting each other's lives and start, not only inviting honesty to the party, but listening to what he has to say.
For more advice like this, make sure you join me on June 21, 2011 from 7-9pm for Rule the Dating Game. You may register online for this class by going to CarrDanePublishing.com.
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