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Homeschooling Hot Topic: Socialization!


I could write an article about how to socialize your child, but you already know how to do that. Your child knows too. He or she has been doing it for a long time. We are all born with the innate urge to connect with others of the human race. From birth, we begin to reach out and connect with those we see around us.

We spend our entire lives practicing and perfecting this skill. A two-year old in the park will toddle up to anyone close enough to seem interesting and offer a word or two, or maybe a toy to share. They don't care if the person is older or younger than they are; they don't care what color their skin is, or what the other persons income level might be, or their lifestyle choices. They just want to connect.

Some children take longer to make those connections. They sit back and watch others, taking in each situation slowly. Some wait to be approached by another, giving their trust slowly and only allowing the ones most interesting to them inside their social circle. Some adults are like that as well. It is in their nature. So why, if this all comes so natural to us, do so many people worry that homeschooled children won't be properly socialized?

At it's best, homeschooling is not isolating, but rather an opportunity to expose your child to a wider variety of people of all ages, races, and lifestyles. Homeschooled children are typically exposed to and need to interact with other children, both younger and older than they are. They are often frequently in situations with a mix of adults and children of all ages where they need to interact and find their "voice", not as obedient children, but as thoughtful members of a society.

Homeschoolers live daily in a world where life isn't a bubble of other people who are exactly the same age as they are. They don't spend hours daily in an environment where they are expected to keep up with everyone else, or to grow and develop at the same rate. They see a world where "what all the other kids have" is less important than "what I am really interested in". They live in a world where you understand a concept when you are ready to understand a concept, you get there when you get there. They see a world where life isn't a race, but a journey. They develop a strong sense of "self" and learn to navigate life based on principles they choose.

So, I will not write an article about how to make sure your child is socialized "properly". You are doing just fine!


  • James 5 years ago

    These are really excellent points you make here. Very insightful and thought provoking. I think many parents rely too much on others to provide for their children's development (socialization and otherwise), whether it is school or sports, and forget that the most important person in their development is themselves.

  • MrEd 5 years ago

    Is this the type of the socialization the anti-homeschoolers crowd is worried that our kids might miss out on:

  • Kerri 4 years ago

    Excellent article! I 100% agree with what James says, too.