In the paradigm of a relationship lies a symmetric correlation among those that share a unique sense of bla bla. Everything seems to be harmonious and sweet, to the point that it becomes nauseating… the hand holding, the back rubbing, the always hugging and the never ending kissing. The only thing left to do at this moment would be to smile and pretend to give a crap.
Not every relationship has the same dynamic. Everyone is different. Some show their affection by showing no affection in public whatsoever, and some care more about what those around them think rather than the person they’re with. And still some hold a balance of both worlds, but you just never know each time where the line would be drawn. This line is in reference to when and where it’s okay to show affection and of course, how much.
To be held and caressed in a warm and cozy place, maybe in a corner of a small shop with a fireplace while sipping a cup of hot cocoa, is almost every girl’s fantasy. But like all fantasies, there is always an end. Anything you say or do might bring the fantasy to a close, because in reality, you are not in control. Circumstances and other people have a say as well.
To create the perfect moment you have to be open to imperfections because chances are 99 percent of your time together will be imperfect, but the one percent perfection seems to make the whole thing worth it. Everyone has one or more issues, so to assess a relationship based on personality flaws is a big mistake. There is no one perfect person for everyone. There is only the person you connect with.
But there could be more than one person you connect with… then what? I guess then would be a good time to become Mormon or Muslim or even a back-in-the-day Jew and get a few more wives and husbands. In fact, let’s all just sleep together and rotate partners just as in the popular 90’s show “Friends.” Get my point?
To avoid all this and be happy with the person you’re with you have to see the imperfections (personality flaws – not a psychopath), as perfections. You really have to love the whole person. Then the person becomes the perfect one for you. Although it’s important that the two people make an effort towards giving each other what that person needs, that unity of the heart has to be there. And it’s really not magic-- it’s communication, deep love, and great understanding.
If we can fix these little things, maybe then if ever we run into a big problem, we’d be able to handle and deal with it. In order to be fulfilled in your relationship with others, you have to be fulfilled with yourself, or at least be working towards that. If not, then the other person has to carry on the duty of completing you as well, and that’s not their job.