It can be awkward and uncomfortable to be with a friend or family member in their grief. We struggle with what to say and what to do. We don't want to add to their grief by our actions or words. So what can we do in order to help those we are around struggling with grief.
How can you support those who are grieving?
- Listen-listen to their stories, sadness, anger and do it without judgement.
- Don't minimize their grief by telling them to cheer up or that they shouldn't feel that way.
- Just sit with them without conversation. Just your presence will be of support to them.
- Acknowledge their pain by allowing them to grieve without judgement.
- Be as available to them as you possibly can.
- Talk to them about the one they lost. Share stories with them.
- Keep in contact by phone calls, notes, or visits.
- Ask them how they are feeling.
- Share how you are feeling with them.
So much of supporting those who are grieving just comes with being available and listening. Support doesn't mean you are going to fix their grief. It means that you are there to support them in the process of grieving.