Explaining that you are on your second marriage yet first husband is an interesting dinner conversation. What's worse is explaining you and your ex remarried a mere 7 months after the divorce was final. Was it because you two kids couldn't stay away? Well, honestly it's because he knew no one else was going to put up with him and you knew no one else was going to put up with you. Romantic? No. True? Yes.
Marriage drives me crazy at times. I want to do what I want to do and I think my spouse's job is to support me in doing that. And my spouse thinks my job is being supportive of what they want to do. And when you add the fact that pressing circumstances forced you into being a stay at home mom for the past four years and you have very little money of your own it really stinks. Try raising your son to be independent when he sees momma is banking on daddy. Of course, daddy says momma contributes to his career success and handles things at home so it's really our money. And that really is the case although it kills your pride. Of course, now that my son will be in high school this year I can go back to work. That will help and I am glad.
The experts say it's family (including parenting), finances, religion and sex that can make or break a marriage. Lord is that ever true. A lack of family support, money, differing religious or political views and non-existent sex is nothing I'd want to live with. So you learn how to partner with your spouse and they learn how to partner with you. Slowly, prayerfully we make up for the lack. We reach out to family, we attempt to be move involved in their lives and invite that they be more involved in ours. We establish friendships. We find ways to stretch and save our money. We go back to school. We learn how to celebrate our differences (or be silent about them) We rebuild intimacy. We strive and we struggle but we persevere.
My marriage drives me crazy but I think I think we'll survive. Don't you?