There is a new demographic in Nashville-newly single, empty nesters, that aren’t used to the dating scene. With almost ½ of marriages ending in divorce, the 60’s generation is flooding the dating pool…and floundering.
Most boomers haven’t been on a date in over 20 years and they just aren’t prepared for it. These days, going to bars and being set up on blind dates by friends, just doesn’t appeal to the over 50 crowd…they have been there and done that. They have grown children, are close to or already retired, and have become comfortable in their own skin. So what’s a newly single boomer to do?
First things first-you need to look in the mirror and update the older model. It’s time for a makeover. If you haven’t changed your hairstyle or wardrobe in over 20 years, now is the time to do it. This isn’t ‘extreme makeover’ but it will feel like it. Small changes will make a world of difference in your outlook. And you don’t need to spend a ton of cash to do it.
Once you have a new updated haircut, ask a single friend to go through your closet and put together some outfits. A fresh, new perspective will do wonders with your wardrobe. After you throw out items that need repaired, don’t fit, or haven’t seen the light of day in over 10 years; go out and buy 3 new items that you can’t live without.
Your best bet is a classic fitted jacket with matching slacks and a white button down blouse. This is good choice for both men and women-each piece can be worn separately or together and dressed up or down. There really is no need to invest in clothes that you won’t be wearing on a daily basis. Most boomers have already collected enough dressy outfits in their closets and own plenty of jeans.
It would probably be a good idea to go to the dentist and your doctor for a check-up, too. These might not sound like dating strategies, but a sparkling smile and healthy demeanor are very appealing to the opposite sex. Let’s face it-we need to feel good on the inside, for our outsides to shine.
And the last thing on your makeover list should be an attitude check. Think about your most fun, exciting friends. They probably have an optimistic attitude that shines through. No wonder they are more fun to be around! Who wants to hang out with people that complain all the time? Make an effort to smile when you talk and learn to listen when people speak. We all like to talk about ourselves, so ask personal questions and then follow up when they are done talking.
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