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Heartbreak series-Adrift

Here is another submission to our heartbreak series from Grahame Johnson, a British poet based in Cambridge. This poem is also full of meaning and depth. He tells a story of heartbreak. When he says “I had to let go” we know this decision must have torn him apart. The result? Nothing feels right. Now he is detached from life, and from the world around him. The break up has also affected the way he views himself, and the way he thinks others view him.

Grahame Johnson
Grahame Johnson
Grahame Johnson, Poet

But read the poem for yourself, and tell me if you agree.

Adrift

I had to let go
Now the city is empty
And nothing feels right
Anymore
The sky is the wrong colour
The air is sterile
A tide of silence
Stifles

Beside the river
I watch, I sit
Disconnected and adrift
The confident and the beautiful
Float past me in clouds
They effervesce
But I am unnoticed
Not visible in their spectrum
Or yours

Grahame Johnson

Blogger Ashley Cox, in 1998, investigated the science behind heartbreak. The article is very insightful and really sheds light on a phenomenon that is as mysterious as it is real. According to Ashley, “heartbreak can be caused by many different circumstances and that's what makes this emotion easily recognized by nearly every person on the planet. It can result from the loss of a loved one, a partner, a friend and even a close pet. Or it can be caused from disappointment, betrayal or a change from known surroundings. It might not even be a loss at all but a sense of loss, or the realization that the love of the person you care most for is drifting far from where it had always been.” Ashley talks about the physical pain of heartbreak, the stages of heartbreak,whether heartbreak can occur literally, and how to mend a broken heart. The full article can be found here.

My hope is that as we study heartbreak in this series it will help sufferers to come to grips with their heartbreak, sometimes unexpressed or suppressed. Whatever the cause of the heartbreak, it needs to be dealt with; otherwise it might manifest itself in some way that is not desirable. Some people internalize strong negative emotions that may later manifest through illness, rage, or even violence. Let us take the time to explore our innermost feelings and deal with unresolved emotions that threaten to destroy our very lives, or destroy the happiness of our loved ones who are directly affected by our inability to handle our experiences in a positive and healthy way.