Caregivers should not take on more to do this time of year, however we always seem too. Already tired and working every moment of each day, we take on the decorating, cooking and cleaning for people to come over to visit for the holiday. There are many reasons why we do this and it would be nice if others realized why.
First of all the person we care for is not always a prime candidate for going to other’s homes (they maybe agitated by this, or confused by the surroundings). And the time and work to get our friend out the door and into the car is a lot of work. It is important to realize that just because we choose to stay at home that may not be the solution we are wanting, however, is necessary.
Second the confusion and stress is something which may last a lot longer than the visit time. Later at home we may see more frustration, confusion and stress due to a change in the normal routine. The person may not sleep well or may wonder aimlessly for a bit just getting settled back into the routine.
Neighbors and friends could take all this in and perhaps offer to stay with the person so the caregiver can get out for a short time. One of the most discussed and treasured times during this season is for many caregivers to attend religious services. This may not be possible with the responsibilities of caregiving. If someone could relieve the caregiver for just this amount of time and allow the person to attend would be in many cases the most wonderful present we could receive.