Can you imagine my surprise as I listened to the Steve Harvey radio show and the guest brings up the term “romance secretary”? Anything love or romance related immediately gets my attention. This day’s guest was Ryan Smith from HLN. He mentioned how one of the shows highlights a professional who gets paid to act as a romance secretary for a New York couple. Apparently this couple is one who needs assistance in scheduling quality time to spend together. The Romance Secretary gets paid to plan and schedule dates and keep the two connected. I had never heard of such a thing. My reaction is probably similar to that of many of you. My first thought was how someone could get so busy they struggle with finding time to enjoy the person they love most. I wonder what could possibly get in the way of actually connecting, loving and taking pleasure in maintaining such an important relationship.
It makes sense that one could run out of ideas on planning romantic and entertaining dates and activities. Sometimes you feel as though you’ve done it all before. The movies and out to eat can become a little boring and you may need new suggestions. But making time for a loved one should come natural for us and be a priority.
However, if making time for one another is a challenge, in comes the Romance Secretary, to help keep the two connected. Again my original question is, what could truly get in the way of your time together? If work happens to be consuming your lives, that’s what vacation and sick time are for. Scheduling time off and stealing a day to just be alone always re-energizes a couple. Whether it’s staying in bed for most of the morning or getting out and enjoying the day, this type of planning needs to happen.
The children may be another reason the time a couple has to spend together is limited. Parents are so consumed with making sure their children are properly cared for that everything else gets tossed to the side. Getting a babysitter and planning a date night as frequently as possible is ideal; check with the grandparents, they usually understand a couple’s need for quality time. Perhaps sending the children to bed an hour earlier will allow a couple the chance to enjoy a little bit of time.
There are so many resources for couples that teach us how to maintain our love life and keep the romance alive. From relationship books to magazines to blogs and radio shows, we are always equipped with ideas on how to make this work. We just have to do it! Once we decide our relationship is a priority, we will begin to give it the attention it deserves; without the help of a Romance Secretary.