You weren’t there. You were doing you, or you were tired of watching them make the same old mistakes time after time, or you told their personal business or you just plain ole’ took the friendship for granted. If ever a time when a friend needed you and you weren’t there, or you did something to hurt the friendship; do you feel bad about it now? Have you ever let a friend down?
There are times when not realizing it, that we take our friendships for granted. We know so much about them or feel comfortable with our friendships that sometimes we say way too much to others about them, don’t rush to help when they need it because of the past, or sometimes we call ourselves helping them when our motivation says different. Maybe none of those were your situation. Maybe you’ve let a friend down because you weren’t able to be there for them in the capacity in which they needed but you had to keep it moving and now you feel bad about letting them down.
In friendships, you can never know too much about them because things are always changing. You can never feel too comfortable, and you always have to court a friend. It’s no different from any other relationship. We are constantly cultivating friendships and sometimes we may be way too opinionated about what a friend is going through or what we, who are not in their shoes, would do and act accordingly because they are not.
Usually it’s not while we are letting down a friend that we feel bad about it. It’s not even while we’re saying something about them to someone else that we feel bad because maybe it’s true. Or that in the case of “I’m not running to help this time” or I’ve said my piece and that is it, in which we realize. Usually it’s either right afterward, when the dust has settled and we’ve had time to sit and think “Maybe I should’ve done things differently” that we feel like maybe as a friend we’ve let them down.
Friends are ever learning about one another and friendships are ever changing. We have to always check in with one another to let each other know how we feel and apologize for things that we feel less than about. When how you feel about your friend’s issues change, it doesn't hurt to be honest and tell them how you feel about it so they don’t expect things that you aren’t able to give or at this point aren’t willing to keep being there for because it hurts too much. When we are on the same page about things it makes it harder to feel bad about things that our friends already know.
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