You know the feeling of dread that happens when a big change is in front of you? How all those little voices in your head start a chorus of doubt and fear?
Why does change always bring such apprehension? Why is that the time we begin to second guess and decide we made the wrong decision?
Some resort to pills for anxiety. Others go to the gym more frequently. Then there is wine and chocolate to sooth those voices that, for most of us, seem to get louder in the dark of the night.
Think of it this way: we reach a barrier, call it fear, or doubt, or even terror. How we cross that barrier is a big determiner of what we will do with the change in front of us.
In the GUTSY book there are stages of development for women as they grow “too old for toys and too young for boys” and how each transition from age to age is handled.
Women, (and men too), sometimes think about developmental stages as acrobatics. You swing back and forth on one set of bars and then there is that moment of trust when you have to let go.
You are flying in the air for that brief second, no net, nothing to hold onto, and if you think you will fall and crash to the ground you just might.
However, if you keep your eye on that steel bar swinging toward you, the one there for you to grab, and believe you will, the odds are in your favor.
Here is the exercise: take a minute and write down at least three times of radical change in your life and then use the image of the acrobat. What were those voices saying to you when you finally let go to grab the new steel bar?
Connect the dots. You will in the few minutes this takes, get great information on how to handle the next change in your personal or work life.
There is only one promise I can make for sure.
And my best advice is to keep your eyes on the shiny steel bar and know you can grab it in a strong and steady way.