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Grief is a process

     Recently, a couple of notable families have been devastated by the loss of loved ones. Andrew Koenig’s family and more recently, Marie Osmond’s family have succumbed to grieving circumstances.

     Tragedy does not just strike Hollywood. Tragedy, whether widespread or personal, happens everyday. There is plenty of grief to go around in this world and people are grieving everyday. 

     Who truly understands grief?

     Grief is a normal reaction to loss or pain that takes a process to work through. In 1969, The Kübler-Ross model was introduced by Elisabeth Kubler Ross in her book called, On Death and Dying. In her book, she describes the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. In addition to the stages of grief, there could be numerous reasons why people end up in a grievance process.

     Grief does not just happen when someone dies. Grief happens when people lose something significant. The loss could be in the form of a divorce, employment, money, self-respect, health, freedom, or even love. Believe it or not, children’s behavior and people’s comments can cause a person grief.  Some people, right now, do not even realize they are grieving about something.

     In the Bible, First Samuel Chapter 1, Hannah was completely grieved by her inability to have a child. Hannah was definitely depressed and angered by it as she “wept bitterly” over her infertility. She bargained with the Lord by saying she would dedicate a child given to her back to the Lord. In the end, Hannah’s sorrow turned to joy as she bore a son named, Samuel. Hannah received her joy from the Lord and testified about it.

     In Hannah’s example, grief was formed from not being able to have something that was truly desire. Yet in the end, her grief was turned to joy. The same was true in the account of Jesus. Jesus faced the unspeakable death of the cross so that the greater good could prevail. Jesus told his disciples in John 16:20, I tell you the truth, you will weep and mourn while the world rejoices. You will grieve, but your grief will turn to joy.” While the world keeps spinning in our time of grief, God has not forgotten us.  Prayerfully, by the time we have had enough grief in our lifetime, we will be eager to accept Christ’s love and salvation.

     Dealing with grief can take months or even years to work through. Whatever grief we are experiencing, God is ready and willing to replace it with joy at the right time.  As with the lives of Jesus and Hannah, God will give us something to testify about.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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