Move on, dream on, dream big, date early and often.
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you imagined.” Henry David Thoreau
Breaking Up is Hard to Do
Okay, so you got temporarily de-railed with a rocky, challenging chapter in life (separation, divorce, break up, hiccup- call it what you will). Friends tell you it is time to get back on the horse. Oh, you’ve never ridden a horse?
Okay. New metaphor: get back on the bicycle. What? You say the sleek and fancy, tres cher, Titanium (or carbon fiber) bike with tires as thin as black licorice intimidate you? You prefer a pastel Schwinn with fat tires and pink streamers flying in the wind?
Get Back in the Dating Game
Whatever mode you decide upon – it is time to dream big and move on. Sure, your heart might have be broken, numb, or shattered. Do the grieving, the voo doo doll, write in your journal, take long walks and short naps and snap out of it. You can do this. It’s time to take the shroud off your heart and get out there and dabble in the Suddenly Single Playground of Life: Dating World. Here are today's Top Four Dating Tips:
Top Four Tips for Moving On and Into a Real Social Life
#1. You aren’t going to meet anyone in your living room. Get out of the house.
#2. Go where the action is – not the library, not the far left front pew at church or synagogue. See– Top 10 Places to Meet Men.
#3. Tell all your friends you are ready to date. Sign up for on line dating – today, the top three sites are Match, JDate, and the glacially slow and methodical, EHarmony. They spend more money on advertising than the next 10 sites, combined. There are hundreds of sites – abandon hope all ye who enter some of the crazy sites.
EHarmony is actually a very popular, very successful site…as is the fast paced Jewish dating site, JDate…Catholic Date is too Opus dei…and OMG, Atheistdate.com is too trippy.
#4.Flirt Often. Once you are on – up and running on a dating site – for the best results you must: Flirt three times every day. Send a short – one line note to - three different people – every day. What to say? Easy: “Enjoyed reading your profile. We have some things in common. Take a look. Hope to hear from you.”
Just be simple, succinct, polite and inviting. Go ahead – give it a whirl…Leave Heartbreak Hotel and move into happier spaces and places. The best half of your life is waiting.
I believe that it’s better to be looked over than it is to be overlooked.Mae West
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