A Daily Word from the Word for Wednesday, December 18, 2013
“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” – Proverbs 22:6
My son and I have not been getting along too well for the past several days. It started off as an issue, and built up from there. Out of my frustration with him, I called him spoiled, and told him not to ask me for anything anymore until he can get his attitude right and stop acting like a spoiled brat. My son is no longer a child, but a young man; although sometimes, he acts much less than his biological age.
This being said, the Lord checked me (seemingly out of nowhere) yesterday morning while I was getting ready for work. The Father said “Stop calling your son spoiled, because he is My son too. If he is spoiled, then you are spoiled, as are all of my sons and daughters, because what I have given you and continue to give, you and others do not deserve. And I continue to pour out my blessings upon you regardless of your attitude; although sometimes I hold back or increase based on what is good for you; but never do I withhold. I give according to Who I am, and not according to how you act. I give because I greatly and unconditionally love every single one of My children.”
The Lord literally brought me to my knees at that moment, and I repented. Sometimes we forget that our children are, first and foremost, God’s children. While we are given the privilege to ‘parent’ them, they belong to the Father. I then asked forgiveness from my son for calling him spoiled.
My big learn from this is that we should never call our children spoiled. Although they don’t act right at times, and need correcting, we should never call them spoiled. It creates a crack in their foundation. Calling our children spoiled diminishes the condition of our son or daughter, as it speaks to the person; when we need to be addressing the act, action, behavior, or attitude of the child.
Webster’s Dictionary defines “spoiled” as “the act of damaging, an object of plundering.” When we call our precious seed spoiled, we are calling them damaged, and labeling them a victim; and this should not be so. I know the word seems harmless; however, words either build up or tear down. They either equip or destroy. The Word of God says “death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit” (Proverbs 18:21). And when we speak to our children, good or bad, we are forcing them to eat the fruit of our words.
Dr. Kevin Leman, author of “Parenting your Powerful Child,” wisely said “we are to ‘train up’ a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.’ God says to ‘train up,’ but too often we train down.” These words really stung my spirit. I am guilty of “training down” too many times rather than “training up.” When I looked up the Hebrew word for “train,” it actually means “discipline, train up, dedicate” (Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance).
The word “dedicate” spoke to my spirit. To be dedicated to someone is to be committed to them. Our children must know that we are committed to them unconditionally, both in word and deed. When we speak or do something to the contrary, it mixes the message and muddies the water. I am not saying throw out discipline—God forbid! That would be reckless and irresponsible. God Himself warns against “sparing the rod, which spoils the child” (Proverbs 13:24). But even in discipline and correction, we must not allow these acts to undermine our dedication to our children or cause it to crack their foundation. Especially if you have a very powerful child/young man, as I do.
And if you need wisdom in how to correct your offspring, the Lord offers us this priceless pearl: “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you” (James 1:5). God is one hundred percent for us, and dedicated to us unconditionally. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves of this truth, and pass it on to our children in what we say, how we say it, and what we do.
Father, thank You for Your unconditional love. Help us, Holy Father, to train up our children. Give us the wisdom we lack and need to parent our sons and daughters as You want and command us to—as You parent us. Turn our hearts toward our children, and turn our sons and daughters hearts toward us. Restore and repair any breach that we have caused in our relationship with our kids, of which we repent for. Make our relationships better than brand new, because You are the God Who makes all things new. In Jesus Name, we thank You that our children know and experience our unconditional love, and our unwavering dedication to them. Amen and Amen.
Take action! Challenge your thinking! Choose to re-dedicate your life to your child the way God would have you to do. Determine to speak life to your son and daughter, speaking only what God has spoken to you concerning your seed. And fight the good fight of training up your child; for God, your Perfect Parent, has already given you the victory!
If you have never received Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior, I encourage you to do it today, right now, by saying this prayer out loud: “Jesus, forgive me for my sins. I am sorry. I truly desire to be saved and reconciled back to God, my Father, through You. I receive Your sinless Blood as payment in full for my sins—past, present, and future. I now call You my Lord and Savior, and invite You to live within my heart, and to permanently live within me. I make You Lord over me and over my life from this moment on. Amen.” Congratulations! You are now a child of God, made whole and made new, by the Blood of Jesus Christ!
God tells us that we are blessed to be a blessing (Genesis 12:2). Be a blessing to someone by sending them this word of encouragement. If God did not already put someone in your spirit and on your heart that needs to read this uplifting message from above, simply ask your Heavenly Father who to bless on today. Forward this message right now by email, facebook, or twitter.
Jesus is coming soon!
May God Bless you and keep you always.
With warmest regards,
And, in service of The Most High King,
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All references to Hebrew and Greek words and meanings, unless otherwise noted, are taken from the New Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance © 1990 by Thomas Nelson Publishing. All dictionary references are taken from the Merriam-Webster online dictionary © 2013, unless otherwise noted.