Mirror Mirror on the wall… who is the fairest of them all?
When I was born I was so ugly the doctor slapped my mother.
“Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes clean to the bone.”
Don’t judge a book by its cover
These and many other phrases that have been heard, used, laughed about, joked about, and have left indelible marks upon the minds and hearts of many men, women, boys, and girls.
Ever wonder why the Queen in the story of Snow White was obsessed with being the fairest of them all?
Queen's Mirror Scene from Disney Snow White
What is beauty?
What determines if something is beautiful?
I mean I know there is the divine number of Phi and how it separates and classifies divine proportions of all aesthetically beautiful buildings, structures, faces, etc. (For more on this see links below)
However, is that a man made judgment?
Are there layers of beauty?
Is beauty truly in the eye of the beholder? And if it is, then beauty is as vague, individualized, and as elusive as having a favorite color or a favorite flavor of ice cream.
To some people Halle Berry is stunning and to others she is not.
To some Angelina Jolle is gorgeous and to others she is not.
To some Chris Hemsworth is “hot” and to others he is not.
To some Idris Elba is handsome and to others he is not.
And if beauty does in fact have more generalized characteristics, what determines these characteristics?
What makes the elongated necks of the Padaung women of the Kayan people beautiful?
What about the ancient Chinese practice of foot binding, what made that beautiful?
Speaking of that. . . Why is beauty seemingly "forced" upon women? Meaning, why does it appear, as we look over history (regardless of geographical location) that it is far more vital for a woman to live up to society’s ideal of beauty? This appears time and time again! So much in fact that women are made to "suffer" to be beautiful (as seen with foot binding, corsets, and various forms of body modification and mutilation including plastic surgery and cosmetics).
On the flip side, can a man not be considered beautiful?
Is handsome merely another word for beauty or beautiful? And what about concepts such as sexy, hot, and attractive, are these all related in essence or are they diametrically opposed? What separates these words? What is the real difference? And while we are discussing this, why are men generally not subjected to the subliminal societal doctrine that tells a man that he must be handsome (beautiful) to be accepted?
As spiritual beings, metaphysicians, and mystics, we are called to see beauty in all beings (the human and non-human). We are called to see wholeness and divine beauty in all people, all situations, and all experiences.
When we can transcend the impermanence of these societal bounds, we are able to see beauty even in the face of an octogenarian. We do not see old age; we see eternal youth and beauty!
True beauty is not fleeting it is infinite and ever present.
It is time for each of us to heal our own scars related to self image and self worth so that we are able to teach our children that they are beautiful regardless of any outer conditions.
There is no reason the girl who was suspended from school should be made to feel that her hair determines her beauty, self worth, or value.
The school district and the adults who are in charge would be wise to reevaluate why they put into effect something that was as discriminatory and potentially harmful as the guidelines they have on the books.
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It is said that Bruce Lee was not given the role of Kwai Chang Caine in the TV series Kung Fu and that the role was given to David Carradine because he was more “acceptable” to TV viewers.
There is no reason why an Asian American woman “should” have to alter her eyes or facial features to be more acceptable to an American audience.
Julie Chen gets Plastic Surgery
So again, bringing this discussion full circle… It is vital that each of us takes that much deserved introspective look and assess what we think and feel about “beauty.”
Are we as judgmental as the next person; quick to call someone ugly or unattractive simply because our eye is not trained to see the divine beauty inherent in every human?
Let’s make today a day to go to the mirror and remind the person looking back at us that he / she is beautiful, that he is worthy, that she is deserving, that we are loved!
Mirror mirror on the wall I AM beautiful all in ALL!